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Lately I have a gnawing feeling all the time, like nothing feels right.

Last year I moved to another country for work. Eight months later the job finished because of the global credit crisis. While this was happening I met a women who I had lots in common with and we fell for each other & everything seemed great. I stayed in the country to be with her to get to know her and we got married. I then sank into depression. Slowly I have come out of it and she has stood by me.
Lately I have a gnawing feeling all the time, like nothing feels right. It is quite horrible and disconcerting. I’m not sure if I’m totally off track or if I’m in unfamiliar territory. I suppose if I’m in unfamiliar territory nothing would feel right as I’m on the edge of new ground and everything would feel - not quite right.
It’s a confusing feeling and is very uncomfortable!
I am also unsure if I am still in Love with her.
I feel fondness and caring but not Love. Most of the time I feel like going home (back to my country) but am afraid of making another bad move. Perhaps time will help resolve things, but I have been feeling these things for a few months. My direction in life is very unclear. (I’m 43)

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Last year I moved to another country for work. Eight months later the job finished because of the global credit crisis. While this was happening I met a women who I had lots in common with and we fell for each other & everything seemed great. I stayed in the country to be with her to get to know her and we got married. I then sank into depression. Slowly I have come out of it and she has stood by me.
Lately I have a gnawing feeling all the time, like nothing feels right. It is quite horrible and disconcerting. I’m not sure if I’m totally off track or if I’m in unfamiliar territory. I suppose if I’m in unfamiliar territory nothing would feel right as I’m on the edge of new ground and everything would feel - not quite right.
It’s a confusing feeling and is very uncomfortable!
I am also unsure if I am still in Love with her.
I feel fondness and caring but not Love. Most of the time I feel like going home (back to my country) but am afraid of making another bad move. Perhaps time will help resolve things, but I have been feeling these things for a few months.

Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "feeling lost, lack of pupose, Love" 3 months, 3 weeks ago.

Anonymous edited this post 3 months, 3 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

Last year I moved to another country for work. Eight months later the job finished because of the global credit crisis. While this was happening I met a women who I had lots in common with and we fell for each other & everything seemed great. I stayed in the country to be with her to get to know her and we got married. I then sank into depression. Slowly I have come out of it and she has stood by me.
Lately I have a gnawing feeling all the time, like nothing feels right. It is quite horrible and disconcerting. I’m not sure if I’m totally off track or if I’m in unfamiliar territory. I suppose if I’m in unfamiliar territory nothing would feel right as I’m on the edge of new ground and everything would feel - not quite right.
It’s a confusing feeling and is very uncomfortable!
I am also unsure if I am still in Love with her.
I feel fondness and caring but not Love. Most of the time I feel like going home (back to my country) but am afraid of making another bad move. Perhaps time will help resolve things, but I have been feeling these things for a few months. My direction in life is very unclear. (I’m 43)

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (19 hours, 18 minutes after post)

A gnawing feeling in your stomach is not something to be ignored. A lot of people do things they don’t necessarily want to do because they think there is something wrong with them. It sounds like you need to go back to your country and put the girl on the back burner. If when you get back you miss her terribly, and don’t feel relieved, then you can always go back. Find a way to make yourself happy!

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