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Hello,

My spouse and I have raised three beautifuk girls. When we were first married in 1978, we were the ages of nineteen and fifteen. Young at the lease, but full of love for each other and for our kids.

Yet, here we are some thirty-one years later; we are still married and still in love and have three beautiful daughters and seven of the most wonderful grandchildren ever.

Kevin and I have always had lots of love to give, and we have always adored children. We value and thank God for our own daughters (the oldest of which is not biloogically his), and our incredible grandkids. The one aspect that we have never had much of, though, is money.

We have been thinking of adoption a sibling group. There is actually one in Texas that we found that comprises four siblings, two boys and tow girls. However, our home is less than 800 square feet, and is in need of many repairs. We do have almost an acre of ground that includes a trampoline and swingset, along with a great garden area.

We know that there are many celebrities that adopt. What we were wondering is if there is anyone that might be willing to assist us with our house so that we might have a nice home to go along with the love that we have to offer children.

My spouse and I both endured the most horrific childhoods, and then God lead us to each other and we have built each others love and trust for many years, as well as being blessed with the love and trust that we were given through our own three kids. However, we are still young, and we still have lots of love to give.

We are not pushovers, and we believe in morals and consistancy with kids. Our grandchildren and children are here often, and we feel so fortunate to be continuing to share in their lives. Still, we are awfully young to have all of our children grown, and we miss the wonderment and challenge of being able to assist with the development of young lives on a daily basis.

Any comments, suggestions, or ideas on how we can bring our home up to par so that we can aid another set of children would be deeply appreciated.

Sincerely,

Lisa (age 46) and Kevin (age 50)

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Anonymous #
3 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Who are you adopting for: yourself or the kids?

You are way too old.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

Too old to adopt a sibling group of four children? Are you serious!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

In retrospect, I just wanted to add that I hope you are one of the fortunate few who had two parents that loved and guided you throughout your childhood. In addition, I just wonder how old your parents were when you were ten-years-old. I was twenty-five when my eldest reached the age of ten.

A person that adopts should be adopting for both themselves and for the children. If not, then there would be something missing in the relationship. The persons adopting have to be open to the difficulties that the child/children have had, and be willing to help them through those things. The child/children have to want to be adopted because they want/need parents that care and will keep and work with them to help them have a successful and happy life.

How would you like to have siblings that you cannot even live with and can hardly ever see? To this, add the fact that there are no parents to turn to; how much more difficult is that? Would you be “young” enough and willing to adopt four siblings? If so, and if you have love to give, please do so.

I wish Anonymous luck and happiness in life. As “they” can see, I am not hiding behind the mask of anonymity.

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3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

I was adopted and work with other people who have been scarred by the process and by people like you.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

Our children would not agree with you, nor would our Grandchildren. In addition, my niece that lived her life in foster care would object as well (My sister would not allow her to be adopted). For your sake, I wish you healing from your pain, and I will pray for that, Anonymous.

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3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 10 minutes after post)

If you only wanted the answer that would suit you then why did you bother to ask the question on an open forum?

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