My mom is saying that idon’t love her.its a heart breaking - Help.com

why does she say that?

I’m sorry she is saying that. What is the reason behind the accusation? Have you done something to make her feel like you don’t love her (still wrong for her to say, though); or has she gone into a state of despair about something? Does she have a low self esteem? Is she struggling somehow?

Women often think people don’t care because of things that people may not even realize. She probably needs someone to appreciate what she has done, her sacrifices, etc. and do things the demonstrate caring (like cleaning dishes, and crap like that)

My own mother was a nutcase when it came to keeping the kitchen clean. If we didn’t do it it meant we didn’t are about her. This kind of weird way of getting emotional feedback is damaging and ridiculous but you need to understand it to deal with it.

It may be something that she says, in a knee jerk reaction to how she feels, maybe she does the laundry, cleans, cooks, without much gratitude… I highly doubt this is what she feels and although she shouldn’t say it, perhaps she is saying it to get a “positive” reaction and results- I’m not making excuses for her, but just trying to see things from both angles here… she may be stressed and maybe what you could to to talk to her about it, is offer to massage her shoulders while you let her know that you love her by trying to open up the mother/child relationship abit…

It may be that she just doesn’t know how to relate to her teen, and feels like you are slipping away from the nest quicker than what she intended. As a parent, it is hard to allow our children to grow up and become their own individuals.

I know she loves you dearly, and I am certain she knows you love her too… she’s scared stressed, tired, and wants to hold on to you… but is going about it the wrong way.