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I really wish I could make you feel happier hun xx

I think you are working against yourself - beating yourself up over all the things you are not when that is probably what it holding you back from just being who you are.

Im lonely too. So I hear you, love

Really there are more people like you than you realize. Everyone gets lonely and most people just find anyone to be with just to feel normal. It’s hard to find someone that feels the same way about you that you do them.

Dr. Ralph wrote:
Really there are more people like you than you realize. Everyone gets lonely and most people just find anyone to be with just to feel normal. It’s hard to find someone that feels the same way about you that you do them.

But that doesn’t mean that you should stop trying!!

I think you need to come to terms with the fact that things are and will mostly be ****, you need to build something new from your pile of crap. No reason you shouldnt have your fun at least

well…I already gave you a hug. I think you should find your passion? Something that you like doing or something that you would love to learn? Dance? Painting? Piano? Anything??

I think having a bunch of roommates will be a good experience for you…

Dr. Ralph wrote:
I think having a bunch of roommates will be a good experience for you…

True story… learn to adapt! Go with the flow and what not…

Hmm. I think you really need to erm, stop wallowing in misery and self-pity, im sure it doesnt make u feel good and doesnt get u anywhere :) as for your job, just try to be upbeat abt it as much as possible, i cant tell u to enjoy urself cause i never enjoyed any of my jobs because i cant get along with most ppl there.. but yeah, think of it as an extra pocket money thing. as for the girl, well keep up the friendship but dont expect anything out of it..it isnt embarrassing not havinga gf. im 20, never had a proper relationship and am freaking proud of it. as for living with the guys, well, just be diplomatic and friendly but keep ur own personal space as well. self-confidence is something u have to learn to build up yourself mate :)

Well, it seems to me you have two options. You could 1) sit there and feel crappy and sorry for yourself (everybody needs to do that sometime) or 2) go out, hit some pubs, go dancing, and get yourself out there! You seem like a reasonably intelligent person, you’re going to university, you can hold down a job…believe me, there are a lot of guys that don’t have that! Women appreciate that.

Just go out and have a good time. Be yourself. Stop worrying about finding someone and start having -fun-. I bet someone will come along while you’re distracted with living your life. ;-)

Good to know that(:

Well, we do try. :-) That’s what this site is about, after all!

You seem like a really nice person :). although this may not help, any girl would like someone like you who is open about their feelings.And dont worry you shouldnt feel like you need to tell a girl about how many relationships you’ve been on until later on. Usually when you are ” in love” the other person’s feelings are mutual. What you have experienced is a good old fashioned crush. I think that because you have never had a real relationship with a girl, you feel more attached to a friend. Why dont you try to just go to club, or join a gym? those are great places to meet a girl and also a great place for a 23yr old guy like your self

good luck! :)

Keep talking with the girl you like. She might not like you now but like flirt with her be funny be crazy. When yoyu see shes not smiling ask her why. Be there for her and I promise you eventually your relationship will change. And if it doesnt well you can send me a bunch of mail.

Tell me how it goes dude

If you don’t like your life, change it. But you shouldn’t cry about that which you cannot change.
Congratulations on your first step.

I am alone right now, there has been a time I fell in love with many who did not feel the same about me and others who just wanted to exploit me, I worried about been alone and never having a relationship and how I am so good at starting and ending dramatic and painful relationships, so one day I decided I said to myself I don’t care anymore if I will be alone or not have kids or get old on my own or die on my own somewhere where no one knows me,

because I realized every moment I worried about what I did not have, I lost precious time which I could have spend with someone who does care about me or being kind to myself by learning or doing something that would benefit me and others.

I am not sure if you can find any answer here for finding happiness, but one thing for sure if you learn to be content with yourself as you are and life as it is and try to make the best of it one step at a time, you would find answers on your own gradually, just remember tears are ok but sadness or anything that is negative is never the answer, you need to fight emotions to survive for youself and your loved ones :O) (HUGS)

Anonymous said
Why would you ask how to deal with a fox? Are you going hunting?

I think it is natural to keep the reasons private :O

AWWWWWW..
It seems you have a bit of a socialising problem now, perhaps due to the exerience of being bullied. So you shud actually open ur eyes and mind to the fact that having more people around will help u socialise again. This wil rebuild your confidence, which will alow for YOURSELF 2 actually start likin you and then in turn let others, as they wil feel more comfortable around u. Trus mei know hw it feels 2 like someone hu doesnt like u bak in the same way. Just kno gd things will happen keep ur head u high and the more happier u are, it reflects on your mood, personality and appearance.
I’d say the best thing to do is surround urself with more people. Like in movies when people break up they usually go sleep with someone theyve just met in a club, im not sayin do the same but im saying that its good to surround urself with people as it cheers you up n boosts ur confidence. This will attract people to you and you’l also realise u dont need a galfrend or boyfrend- having good m8z will keepp you happy. So make lots of them & enjoy yourself (: x

Dr. Ralph wrote:
Really there are more people like you than you realize. Everyone gets lonely and most people just find anyone to be with just to feel normal. It’s hard to find someone that feels the same way about you that you do them.

Dr. Ralph wrote:
I think having a bunch of roommates will be a good experience for you…

Listen to this guy he is a doctor. I agree with him too.

Hey, you must be back at uni by now, how does it feel now? In any case, I have similar experiences to you. I know so well how unrequited love hurts, and how difficult it is to let go of someone. I also know a lot about soltitude. Although it’s not much of a comfort, you are not alone in that sense… there are many people all over the world, just like you and me.

Hope you’re doing better now. :)

wow, really sorry to hear that, but stay chipper! if you stay depressed you’re only gonna go spiraling down, what you should do… and yes, i am being serious, it’ll give you something to work with if nothing else is try to find videos of people hanging out…it’s kinda odd, but you really do need socializing skills, and after you think you know what to do, go to a church party, even if you’re not religious, church goers will not judge you harshly so it’s a good place to start, best of luck to you!

There should be some way to give a thread the thumbs up, this has been a great read so far, one of the most heart-warming ones I’ve ever read. Hope it works out just perfectly for all of you guys, you deserve it ;) And don’t worry, Cupid has a perfect timing. The real thing will come your way at the right time, live your lives the best possible way till then.