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Please, please reply to this!!! its serious !

You have severe depression. That means a few things. The big one is that your perception of reality is not real accurate right now. I know that’s hard to get, but it’s true. You’re just not seeing things as they are. It’s not all as bad as you think. I’m sure you’ve heard about people on drugs having “bad trips”. Well, your brain is manufacturing a bad trip for you. I know it hurts, but it’s not real. You CAN get better, the hurting CAN be made to stop.

You need to see a doctor. You can even go to the emergency room if that’s all you can work yourself up to do. Tell them everything that you’ve said here.

What’s happening is that the nerve endings in your brain that make it possible to be aware of good things and manage your stress and anxiety are being blocked, so the bad things become overwhelming very quickly. You need medicine to correct this problem. There’s no shame in that. It’s nothing that you did wrong to feel this way. You just have a physical problem, and a doctor can help you with that.

You need to get up and go to the hospital. If that’s too hard, call 1-800-273-8255 and tell them everything you’ve said here. They WANT to hear from you.

roenmcgloan wrote:
You have severe depression. That means a few things. The big one is that your perception of reality is not real accurate right now. I know that’s hard to get, but it’s true. You’re just not seeing things as they are. It’s not all as bad as you think. I’m sure you’ve heard about people on drugs having “bad trips”. Well, your brain is manufacturing a bad trip for you. I know it hurts, but it’s not real. You CAN get better, the hurting CAN be made to stop.

You need to see a doctor. You can even go to the emergency room if that’s all you can work yourself up to do. Tell them everything that you’ve said here.

What’s happening is that the nerve endings in your brain that make it possible to be aware of good things and manage your stress and anxiety are being blocked, so the bad things become overwhelming very quickly. You need medicine to correct this problem. There’s no shame in that. It’s nothing that you did wrong to feel this way. You just have a physical problem, and a doctor can help you with that.

You need to get up and go to the hospital. If that’s too hard, call 1-800-273-8255 and tell them everything you’ve said here. They WANT to hear from you.

sorry but i cant do that. im scared to talk to my mom about it because shes bipolar and whenever i mention it she blames herself and we usually both start crying because we feel bad :( i dont have a car. i dont want to go to the hospital. thats way too expencive right now. i feel like im costing my mom so much money and im being selfish because shes unemployed :((

Call 1-800-273-8255. They are trained to help you. They will not cost you money.

You need to get well so you can help your mom.

whats that number? a suicide hotline? a hospital?

It is a suicide hotline. They can give you advice about what to do.

sry but im not THAT suicidal right now. ive been thinking for hours about it, but i probably would be able to actually do it. to me, im fine as long as im still alive.

What do you want?

roenmcgloan wrote:
What do you want?

i dont understand? what do i want? to get better i guess. but whenever i start to feel better, i dont feel anything at all and i dont know how to handle that. it sounds stupid but its like i actually take comfort in this and im scared to get help. i dont know why i guess i must be crazy or something.

You’re not crazy. You’re depressed.

You asked if you need help. The answer is yes. You need help. This is not a problem that goes away on its own.

It is not unusual for severe anxiety to come with odd coping mechanisms. When your mind is seriously disturbed by a lot of overwhelming negative input, it will grasp for an organizing principle. It is not crazy that your mind has organized itself around feeling terrible all the time, but it is not healthy, and it is not how you should have to live.

You need help.

You do not need to be “THAT suicidal” to get help froma suicide hotline. Simply having persistent thoughts of worthlessness and suicide is PLENTY. You can get good advice about where to get help in your area. Call the number. the worst that happens is that they don’t help you and you hang up, and you’re no worse off than you were.

i know that i should but i just cant. i dont know why but i cant. i know that your so frustrated with me and i can understand why. ive already gone through this with my best friend. she actually made a plan to kill herself but i talked her out of it. sorry but i just cant deal with that right now, anyway i know if i would call i would just start crying and probably hang up so theres really no point.

Try it anyway. It is ok to cry. It is ok to hang up and try again later. Someone should listen to you cry.

Your mind is telling you things that are not real. I am not frustrated with you. I am telling you what you need to do. Call the number.

i just said that i cant!!! you cant talk me into it im obviously not right in the head im probably just tired……….i dont know. ill probably call sometime, but when my mom isnt here. i dont want you to tell me that anymore its making me really upset :’(

You’re upset because you’re scared. You’re scared because what you feel is scary and you don’t like to face it.

Pick up the phone and hold it in your hand. Don’t dial it. Just hold it in your hand.

okay, but why

Are you holding the phone?

okay, but why?

I would like an answer to my question.

yes

yes i am

Look at what you’re holding in your hand, and understand that on the other end are people who want to listen to you. They are not like your mother. They are not in a lot of pain. They will not make you feel guilty for having problems.

uhm, ok…

Now if that’s not too scary, dial the first four numbers.

You can hang up right after you dial the first four numbers if you want.

i managed to dial the whole thing and call but as soon as i heard “hello, this is the national suicide hotl……” i hang up :(

That’s good. That’s a good start.

Before you dial again, say out loud “I need help”. Say it a couple times so you know how to say it when they pick up again.

im not actually going to TALK to some one! my moms right upstairs and shes a very light sleeper! no i dont have a bacement either. i told you, i might call when im here alone

Can you take the phone outside?

no (***** motion lights!!)

That’s ok. I’ll leave you with that for now then.

I want you to do two things.

First, I want you to call as soon as you get a chance.

Second, I want you to realize that it took a lot of courage to get as far as you just did, from being terribly upset by the idea of picking up the phone all the way to dialing the whole number. You have courage, which means you can do this. The saddness is not the only thing you have.

If things get bad before you have a chance to get help, just find somplace quiet and remind yourself that the bad feelings are an illusion. It won’t make them stop, but it will keep you from hurting yourself from thinking that they’re real.

Also, use your computer to do some research about what depression is and what causes it and what some of the co-conditions are. It gets a lot less scary the more you’re able to understand what’s really going on…like when you see a “making of” program for a horror movie. And you gotta admit, being scared of the sadness is almost worse than the sadness itself.

but they are real! this whole thing is real!! there is a reason that depression is an actuall disorder. and i WAS terribly upset. i was crying really hard the entire time so its not like i have that much courage.

Fear is a prerequisite of courage. People that aren’t afraid aren’t brave. You have more than the average share of mortal courage, hon. It’s just that what you’re facing is scary as hell.

no, ive reasearched it many times. ive gone through countless pages of symtoms, causes, treatments, you name it.

I wasn’t being clear. I’m not trying to tell you that you’re not feeling what you’re feeling. Obviously you are. What I’m saying is that your condition amplifies the negative and blocks the positive…like a horribly biased news service.

You mention that you hurt yourself and you’ve made an attempt at suicide. That means that the bad news service is starting to convince you that the way you percieve the world is the way that the world really is, and it’s not. When your chemicals are straight, the things that seem enormously and overwhelmingly impossible and terrible right now will seem a lot more managable because you won’t be fighting with one arm tied behind you. And you’ll be more aware of things that are good also.

I don’t mind if you fight me about whether I’m right or not. But I do want you to promise me that you will call them back when your mom is out.

im not fighting you. and i dont know if i will but i probably will.

That this makes you cry so much shows that you really need to have someone listen to your problems who can help you and isn’t going to make it all about themselves. I’m sorry that you’re mother isn’t like that.

I need to go. It’s very early here.

me to its 5:30AM ive been up all night. thanks for everything im going to try to get some sleep

good plan. Wishing you well.

i was looking up ‘repressed emotions’ when i was directed to this web site and found you. i know what i am reading is making so much sense to me - maybe it will help you - i hope so.

are you there

once i was in ur position.

it was bad

i dont care if any of you call me crazy because i dont really care. it would be nice to know, but im not upset about it.

What you need to do is get out there. Get off of the computer and join a gym or join some other social group. It helped me and I know for a fact it helped a lot of others.