Relationships help: Dealing with some issues, but not really sure how to deal with them…

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Dealing with some issues, but not really sure how to deal with them…

I have been dating this guy for almost a year now, and he went out tonight with his guy buddies, it’s been hours and he still hasn’t called like he said he would. It’s almost four in the morning and I feel like an idiot for waiting on this stupid phone call, yet I can’t force myself to go to sleep. And while I’m sitting here I’m realizing that I have some things I need to deal with, I just don’t know how. Probably the worst thing is that I have trust issues. And it isn’t this guy’s fault. He’s been great. But they are drinking, and I have trouble with that. Alcohol makes people do stupid things. How can I deal with this? Am I being completely irrational?

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ni #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

If he is the right guy for you then you will learn to trust him. These feelings you’re going through are normal.

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3 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

I am just trying really hard not to let him see how much I am struggling. I want him to live his life, ya know? I just have so much trouble keeping my mouth shut about it. I just wish there was an easier way to deal with it all. I mean the phone call was my way of dealing with it, it’s my crutch. But I didn’t get the crutch tonight and it is killing me.

ni #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

You should let him know about it at least. If you’re feeling certain things then surely you can share important information with your boyfriend.

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3 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

If I told him, he’d just stay home. I don’t want him to change because of my issues.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

Well the important thing was the phone call. You have to let him know that you were up waiting for him and worried.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Just drop him a text saying something like “hey, you okay?” Odds are he’s drunk and just forgot to call you, or he lost track of time.

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3 months, 2 weeks ago (32 minutes after post)

I can’t, I don’t have long distance on my phone! He has to call me.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

What do you mean, you don’t have long distance?

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Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 16 hours after post)

I meant that my phone won’t call out of town. It only calls local numbers. It was too much money to get a landline that would make long distance calls.

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