It been nearly three months now since i split with my ex, an i’m still crying everyday. - Help.com

How long were you together for?

hey, my advice to you is that crying is good. it lets all your emotions out. ive been in the same position and there was a special place i used to go with him… and sometimes i used to go there to remember things. it made me feel sad, but better because eventually i wen there les and less.

if theres something to think about or a special place for you… try what i did, you’ll eventually learn to let go.

it will hurt, but it should make it easier than sitting atr home going round in circles in your mind. plus doing something productive keeps your mind of the serious feelings like depression and being heartbroken. hope this helps :)

this quote I got from a book, (paraphrasing)we are beings that live in the present physically, but our minds are always in the past or in the future. We are always thinking about the what ifs of the past and future deadlines and things we need to accomplish. We never just live in the now.

you’re just going to have to live with the pain. Start going to a gym, go out with your friends, make your life better for yourself and you’ll feel better. Go on dates just have fun. It’ll go away or die down eventually. Just have fun in the present and you’re worries will stop. Why do you think people drink when depressed? They get like a tunnel vision on what they are doing right then and there

Hi Alex…..I guess you still feel hurt…huh!

Hi there.

It’s tough I know, but just remember that there are tons of fish in the sea. The reason you’re still fixated on her is probably a combination of still feeling love for her and not having met anyone else. You should just find new activities to do in this time you’re single. Join a club or a sport, find new hobbies and you’ll meet new people. Reconnect with old friends and try to keep busy. Not only will you then have new, fun activities and friends, but you’ll also stop thinking about her so much.

One love push the other. She wasnt meant for you. Remenber that you have learnt from the experience and thats whatlife is about. You gain good and bad experiences and grow from there. Being proactive in something is good advice.. the gym

ajw30 wrote:
Thanks

hey yer still hurting i want it to go away and be happy again and i know that one day it will, but for today i’m hurting. I down the gym 5 times a week and i do see friends and go out. But then i think and feel oh what if i see her with someone else or dump into her again, i affraid i’ll just break down.

Yea, I understand. Its not that ease to forget you love! It meant so much to you!
But,…i think right now, there is no going back or anything you could do about!! Its her choice to leave you and not urs, so……don’t worry, sometimes awful things happen and its not that ease to passby…but, sometimes, forgetting the past is good ,it may reduce your pain! Just think ..you been with happy and she wants to move on her own, so…you both broke up and….now, its over! Its just sweet memories! ..don’t think too much and hurt yourself again and again..if will stop you from moving on!!
just try to be happy and move on without her!!…you will find something new in your life! just hope!
(its ok to breakdown sometimes, you did love her truly, so feeling of hurt (sometimes) is okay…but not always!)

Just remember!! a broken heart can hurt sooo badly, but its the memories that kill you inside. do something to help you forget, focus your life on something else that means alot to you

ajw30 wrote:
Thanks

hey yer still hurting i want it to go away and be happy again and i know that one day it will, but for today i’m hurting. I down the gym 5 times a week and i do see friends and go out. But then i think and feel oh what if i see her with someone else or dump into her again, i affraid i’ll just break down.

i was where you were a couple years back. Man I just went to the gym everyday and tried to occupy myself with everything imaginable because I didn’t think about her if I was doing something. You’ll be alright, and from my situation I was kind of at fault so I had a hard time forgiving myself and rationalizing it. From you, you said she wasnt that great right, well you need to realize you will find somebody that is better and that will give to you the same as you give.

oh
my you must have really loved this girl
if three months later your still hurting
but time will pass, like they say

time is a great healer,

1. You need to accept that your relationship is over and no matter how much you cry
she is never comming back.

2. Start socialising with your close friends, even if you are just hanging out in
your house playing video games

3. Keep yourself occupied, so that you do not think about her so much ok

i know it hurts but crying will not solve anything, it will not make her come back to you, am sorry for being insensitive, but i completelly understand what you are going through, also talk to your best friends about how you are feeling trust me at this moment you need people that care about you around you ok, i hope that my response will be able to help, if u want further advice just replie back as we live in the same country