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why is he doing this to me?

we were the best of friends. we went out but decided it would ruin our friendship so we stayed just “friends”. it worked out better then i thought. but a year later here we are… he’s with a girl who seems to hate my guts, he defends her when she talks shlt on me, and im single and sitting in his dust. i see every evening for 2 hours cuz our brothers have ftball practice every nit so we hang there. but lately he’s been avoiding me when we talk. we hang together but he doesnt talk. he gives me 1 word answers. like id say “wats up” hed say “nothing” and so on and so forth. he said i shoulda never gave you my gf’s number evn tho we’re getting along (on txts anyways) did i say or do something? his new at this gf thing he told me when he told me about her 3 weeks after they evn started dating which plssed me off.

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Dorian offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

Well why don’t you just ask him? His girlfriend probably feels like you’re trying to muscle in on her territory by hanging around her fella, and she’s probably been voicing her displeasure to him. You need to have an honest conversation with him about what’s actually going on. Do you still have feelings for him, and do you think this could be affecting your perception of these events?

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Cell offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 54 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

Get a boyfriend of your own. Or spend time with your other friends.

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kaitlynefin offline Verified User (8 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 11 hours after post)

Dorian wrote:
Well why don’t you just ask him? His girlfriend probably feels like you’re trying to muscle in on her territory by hanging around her fella, and she’s probably been voicing her displeasure to him. You need to have an honest conversation with him about what’s actually going on. Do you still have feelings for him, and do you think this could be affecting your perception of these events?

yeah i do have feelings and its eating me alive tht i cant be with him…

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zilverknight offline Verified User (4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 41 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (6 days, 21 hours after post)

Your mistake was to let him go. Sorry to say you should have never allowed this to happen. If you feel for him truthfully fight for him. Normally I’m against such an advice. But somehow I do feel your pain is genuine.

Go forward, if it doesn’t work out you already lost everything as the friendship is crumbling as we speak. At least you tried.

kaitlynefin offline Verified User (8 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (6 days, 23 hours after post)

zilverknight wrote:
Your mistake was to let him go. Sorry to say you should have never allowed this to happen. If you feel for him truthfully fight for him. Normally I’m against such an advice. But somehow I do feel your pain is genuine.

Go forward, if it doesn’t work out you already lost everything as the friendship is crumbling as we speak. At least you tried.

i wan tto fight… wat do i do zilverknight?

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zilverknight offline Verified User (4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 41 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 week after post)

Be honest with him. Once upon a time you where able to talk to him normally. Tell how you feel and it was an mistake to be just friends. You didn’t want to risk loosing him but you realize love is about taking risk and making a sacrifice. Because the alternative is far more devestating of risk loosing you entirely.

Tell him you realize this now. He will ask you why now, why not act before. This will have to come from your own heart. If you can answer his Q.

I wish you luck Kaitlynefin go, get your man!

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Dorian offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

My gut says it would be a mistake to say anything to him, but it’s your choice.

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