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I swear to god it’s like you are talking about my story…
I come from Italy, and it’s the same dam problem :’(

its hard and i just cant seem to get the same connection with americans i did with europeans! :(

Maybe your resentment about moving there is causing your inability to make friends, you might come across as cold or unsociable.
What is it that you dislike so much there?

me too, it’s so hard to live here… I’m depressing all the time, and just can’t stop crying, a half of my family is here, the other half is there… I dunno if studies in the states are really worth it… It’s like you are talking about me ^.^
I miss all my friends, all the parties, all the fun I had… I feel just a lonely person (if that just make you feel any better), you re not alone

I dont know its the whole thing i tried really hard to make friends in the beginning and i thought it was me maybe comin off as unsociable but i talked to my brother and found out he was going through the same thing i was. people talked to us but only for our accents they never wanted to continue on to become our friends.

J.N, Not lost -found wrote:
Maybe your resentment about moving there is causing your inability to make friends, you might come across as cold or unsociable.
What is it that you dislike so much there?

no really, no offense, people here tend to be really mean… beleive me I’m a very social person.. I smile all the time to people, but they don’t really seem good at appreciating people who aren’t from their country…

that exactly it they want americans and thats it btw i posted the thing it just cam up as pogo1 by accident haha

^.^ in which state do u live? I wanna know if every where is just same here…

yehh me to i live in orlando fl what about you?

Anonymous wrote:

J.N, Not lost -found wrote:
Maybe your resentment about moving there is causing your inability to make friends, you might come across as cold or unsociable.
What is it that you dislike so much there?

no really, no offense, people here tend to be really mean… beleive me I’m a very social person.. I smile all the time to people, but they don’t really seem good at appreciating people who aren’t from their country…

There aren’t as many ppl in England so we get to know ppl on the street & get used to smiling at relative strangers, over there, they don’t get to know ppl in the same way.
I guess it’s just different country’s behave differently. The uk is quite a friendly place.

Hey, no offence, but i hope you are isolated cases, im wanting to move over there!!

J.N, Not lost -found wrote:
Hey, no offence, but i hope you are isolated cases, im wanting to move over there!!

to England?

No, to the US

J.N, Not lost -found wrote:
No, to the US

hehe so u’ll join us ^.^
I’m kidding, I hope u’ll make freinds and be happy here

yehh goodluck hope it works out for you. if it does ull have to give us some tip :P

pogo1 wrote:
yehh goodluck hope it works out for you. if it does ull have to give us some tip :P

hehe yeah rite!!

MOVE BACK(:
happiness is what will pay off in the long run.
you only have one life.

lynnsayhelp wrote:
MOVE BACK(:
happiness is what will pay off in the long run.
you only have one life.

I know but my family dont want to and i cant just leave them behind :( i might just stick it out and go back for college and uni

pogo1 wrote:

lynnsayhelp wrote:
MOVE BACK(:
happiness is what will pay off in the long run.
you only have one life.

I know but my family dont want to and i cant just leave them behind :( i might just stick it out and go back for college and uni

okay do that then(:

lynnsayhelp wrote:
MOVE BACK(:
happiness is what will pay off in the long run.
you only have one life.

I really wish it was that easy!

Ive wanted to go to the US for years, ive been working towards it, im going visiting soon!!
You guy’s have got me a bit worried now :(

First, it takes at least two years to get used to a new place. I moved from Ohio to Florida two years ago, and I HATED Florida for the first 1 1/2 years. Now, I’m starting to get used to it.

Second, different regions in the US are very different from each other. Where are you? I’m from the Midwest (Ohio), but I’ve lived in the Northeast (Connecticut), Mid-Atlantic (Philadelphia), South (North Carolina and Georgia), and now Florida (trust me, Florida is NOT the South!). Each region is very different, and each has a different way of treating outsiders. People in the Midwest are very friendly and generally accepting but seen as being boring, backward, and kind of dumb (not true!). People in the Northeast and Mid-Atlantic can be outright mean. People in the South were friendly until I opened my mouth and my Midwestern accent came out; then it was like I didn’t exist. Florida is just plain weird.

Hang in there — it will probably get better. I hope it does.

yehh i found the same thing, as soon as they heard i was from england it was over they just didint want to know me. so which state do you like best? my family are thinkin of movin to another state but dont know which one can you give us some advice?

migratingredtai wrote:
First, it takes at least two years to get used to a new place. I moved from Ohio to Florida two years ago, and I HATED Florida for the first 1 1/2 years. Now, I’m starting to get used to it.

Second, different regions in the US are very different from each other. Where are you? I’m from the Midwest (Ohio), but I’ve lived in the Northeast (Connecticut), Mid-Atlantic (Philadelphia), South (North Carolina and Georgia), and now Florida (trust me, Florida is NOT the South!). Each region is very different, and each has a different way of treating outsiders. People in the Midwest are very friendly and generally accepting but seen as being boring, backward, and kind of dumb (not true!). People in the Northeast and Mid-Atlantic can be outright mean. People in the South were friendly until I opened my mouth and my Midwestern accent came out; then it was like I didn’t exist. Florida is just plain weird.

Hang in there — it will probably get better. I hope it does.

Do you think CA is pretty much like FL I mean are people mean there too?

Ohio is home, and nothing will ever change that, but I doubt that I will ever live there again. If Florida doesn’t work out (I’m giving it one more year — and it largely depends on what she does), then I plan to move to the DC area, probably Virginia. The DC area is highly cultured, very cosmopolitan, and extremely diverse; yet, the country is less than two hours away. True, the cost of living is high, but salaries tend to be higher as well. OK, OK, my best friend lives there, too, and that’s a big factor.

I’ve never been to California, even though my sister lives there. Some people love it, while others think that it is very superficial. I don’t know enough to offer an informed opinion, except to say that the cost of living is very high.

thanks anyway i appreciate it :)

My niece, from California, is in England now, in Newcastle. She’s working on her Master’s degree. She says many of the same things about England that you are saying about the US. I think a lot of it is that it’s just difficult for outsiders to fit in, no matter where they are.

yehh i think your right i think the different cultures clash and thats the problem we are having

Hon, people in the US are no different than anywhere else..we have our assholes and nice people. It seems to me that maybe you are just not comfortable where you are and you are missing England and your family (which is totally understandable and normal!) …and people can read that. Trust me, people get vibes…be a little more open

Ill take the risk, im still going over there!
I hope i have more luck than the others on this post (but i am not a lucky person)