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I’m having troubles with my birthday.

My friends and I are going to a restaurant to eat. Am I suppose to pay for all their meals, which is like ten or so friends, or do they pay themselves? It seems impolite if I don’t pay for everyone, but we’re getting to an age where parents don’t pay for anything and I know when adults eat out, they pay for seperate meals, but what about now? Please help me.

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ni offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

Umm, if anything, your meal should be taken care of by your friends…pay separately.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

If you are throwing a party and inviting them, I guess you supply the food.

But if you all agree to go out to a restaurant to celebrate, I would think they would pay for themselves.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

If anything all your friends should chip in to pay for your birthday meal. It is your birthday after all, that should be a given to you!

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

Dont expect to pay for theirs, it IS your bday.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

seperate bills.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 59 minutes after post)

As others before me have said, your friends should each be chipping in to pay for YOUR meal / drinks. On the other hand, if it’s a party that YOU organized, it might not be a bad idea to mention “separate checks” before the festivities start.

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