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CheryOlya
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I liked a guy.

I saw him in the lounge where he works as a manager half a year ago and liked what I saw. All the waitresses and ladies gave this gorgeous man plenty of attention the whole night but I knew I gotta have him anyway, and I knew I could. You may say I have high standards but I can’t help myself. So. I had to go about it smart…….But not smart enough I guess and I gave into my temptation too fast. Although we spoke once and even made out the two times I came in there supposedly to drink a martini, I think I ruined the prospective for a relationship by coming there the third time just two days after my last time. And yea,,,,,beautiful night I had.

What to do after a one night stand? There is one big problem with those. Sometimes you end up feeling heartbroken. Why? How to deal with the fact that you realize you actually want to have A relationship with this guy but you basically ruined any chance for it by having a one night stand with him (or even being too easy or going too fast)? How to pursue him into wanting you again or for a relationship?

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Victoria Sponge offline Verified User (6 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 3 years, 9 months ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

You heard from him since? Maybe visit the bar let him know how you feel. I had a one night stand that turned into a relationship once, it was casual for a while until we just kind of fell for each other, I guess it depends on his perspective of you

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seas light offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 9 months ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

You need to gain the respect that you didn’t demand for yourself in the first place. We all are human and apparently you let your emotions over-ride the outcome that you are sadly now experiencing. You could wait a bit, then try going back to this place but be with some friends. Let him see that your not just there by yourself hoping for an encore of your previous meet. I wouldn’t even approach him first, let him if he’s still interested. You don’t want to come off as needy. If it’s meant to be, he might approach you. Just this time don’t be so quick to give him your all. Guys like a challenge, and you don’t want him to get the wrong idea, that if you gave it to him so quick, you might do the same with others. Guys think quite differently then we do. Good luck! :D

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CheryOlya offline Verified User (5 years, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
New York, NY, US | 3 years, 9 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

Unfortunately Victoria I haven’t heard from him still. Thank You seas light. I think you guys are right about everything. I’ve been thinking the same thing because this is only logical. I don’t want to look pathetic nor desperate, not that I ever did but if he is a smart man he understood that I liked him very much. I might come back to that place one day with my friends just to have a good time (after all it was my favorite place for years, way before he started working there and I don’t want to not be able to go there because of what happened) and if he does come up to me……..well, I will improvise I guess. I think I’ll know if I should hope for something or not by the way he would talk to me and his body language.

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