Why do I feel this way towards people? - Help.com

If life is a wave a person sends out a wave communicating his existence to the world. As this wave touches different persons or things and comes back it comes back with varying energy levels. Depending on whether this energy is reinforcing or depleting you will react to it with a positive or negative feeling.

If some one sends out a wave of love to you will respond with a wave of emotion modified to the extent of your own feelings.

If you are a neutral person you will respond love with love hate with hate. A all loving person responds with love to any wave irrespective of it being hateful, cynical etc.

One rejection has turned you into a cynical doubting personality which is converting every wave of emotion touching causing you to be apprehensive of, be in a quandary, be puzzled, be uncertain, disbelieve, discredit, dispute, distrust, fear, harbor suspicion, hesitate, imagine, insinuate, mistrust, read differently, smell a rat, surmise, suspect, take dim view of, waver, wonder at.

Remember you are not the center of the universe. Just let go. This sense of feeling hurt is causing a tendency to reciprocate and cause the same hurt to others as a way of compensation. What one girl has done the whole world is being asked to pay a price. Which is unfair. What harm have friends like us done to deserve this punishment. Give us back our old sweet friend hate101.

i hope this doesn’t sound like an attack because it’s not but.. do you think you’re better than others? because it seems that these people’s traits are so ‘poor’ that it’s enough to merit some major anger. and enough to overshadow the presence of a person you like.

i honestly don’t feel like this at all. there may be people i DO NOT LIKE (not really HATE) because they are the exact opposite of the values i stand for, but i don’t get angry and depressed about it. you may need to improve your attitude because you can’t avoid people (or 9 out of 10 people) your whole life. you are not perfect as well, as you know.

and by the way, people who don’t feel the same way you do are not insensitive ****s as you said. it’s just that, they chose not to be too critical of what others do and recognize the imperfection of others.

i think you want to change though. else you won’t be making this post. hope everything changes for the better. :)

Dear Hate 101,

Remember each one of us is a embodement of a energy which has a field like that of a magnet. We react to waves of energy (People) around us the way a magnet would do with other magnets. The kind of reaction is a function of our own energy levels and that of the people with whom we are reacting and the background energy level due to the time and place this reaction is happening. Many a person has no control on his emotions like a child crying for a choclate as soon as it sees one. We are unable to observe the energy flows and blindly react to a situation.

If you are feeling like cursing a person it is because of different energy levels existing. The fastest way to eqalize is through a curse. Just hold back and observe the object of the curse and give them some work to do ask for a favour, maybe bring you a cup of coffee, pick up a book, ask to use their cell phone, borrow something etc. You will observe that the person will voluntarily comply because he is trying to come up to your level by serving you. This is a productive way of equalising instead of through hate.

You can also equalise through Love which is like a long term loan payable at the discretion of the receiver whenever he is able to with no strings attached. Try to be a neutral observer of your emotions and slowly see the play of forces and how unproductive is our choice of response. If only every person engages in a productive exchange we will not see so much of pain in this world.

Your not likeing them is like a bottled up emotion. Examine this emotion. Try various ways in which it can be changed. Experiment with one or two persons, try to them happy, or angry, or irritate them or ignore them etc., critically observe your emotional reactions to each of their reactions and observe the flow of energy.

I know this is not a easy task you will have to be a psychologist or a Zen buddhist to do this with years of practice. Remember every thought wave in our mind if directed in a right direction can reinforce other thoughts and make a huge wave like a tsunami and propel you to great heights. You seem to have a very enquiring mind which is a gift by itself. If only you can reduce its restlessness you have the potential to excel. Just calm yourself. Fate always finds its heroes. You can be one.

uddipaya wrote:
Dear Hate 101,

Remember each one of us is a embodement of a energy which has a field like that of a magnet. We react to waves of energy (People) around us the way a magnet would do with other magnets. The kind of reaction is a function of our own energy levels and that of the people with whom we are reacting and the background energy level due to the time and place this reaction is happening. Many a person has no control on his emotions like a child crying for a choclate as soon as it sees one. We are unable to observe the energy flows and blindly react to a situation.

If you are feeling like cursing a person it is because of different energy levels existing. The fastest way to eqalize is through a curse. Just hold back and observe the object of the curse and give them some work to do ask for a favour, maybe bring you a cup of coffee, pick up a book, ask to use their cell phone, borrow something etc. You will observe that the person will voluntarily comply because he is trying to come up to your level by serving you. This is a productive way of equalising instead of through hate.

You can also equalise through Love which is like a long term loan payable at the discretion of the receiver whenever he is able to with no strings attached. Try to be a neutral observer of your emotions and slowly see the play of forces and how unproductive is our choice of response. If only every person engages in a productive exchange we will not see so much of pain in this world.

Not sure how far I agree with this, but I love the concept!

hate101, what is it exactly that makes you hate others? Is it that you perceive them as insensitive, like this girl who used to be your best friend? And if so, is it possible that you’re taking the anger you feel towards her and projecting it onto everyone you see as being like her?