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Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "eating disorder, binge food, binge eating" 3 months, 3 weeks ago.
I am with you. Food can be a terrible foe. Let’s work together to gain control. How are you feeling right now?
Eating raw apples can’t make you fat.
pickle chip wrote:
Eating raw apples can’t make you fat.
Eating 20 of them sure can. The out-of-control feeling is horrible, too.
yeah - it is horrible - atm not feeling good, really dont want to go to bed, dont want to wake up tomorrow, cause i know that the first though is like why i was so stupid and ate all the stuff. Its not good for me and especially for my body :/
Here is some advice that I am going to take, myself. Right now, I am going to get up from this computer, go into the livingroom and straighten it up. I will be back in 5 minutes. If you do the same, I will meet you back here when we are finished straightening up. Time starts, now. Go!
c-eek wrote:
pickle chip wrote:
Eating raw apples can’t make you fat.
Eating 20 of them sure can. The out-of-control feeling is horrible, too.
You are right about this.
I wonder where our poster went?
yes i did - just came back - and for the record - even brushed my teeth, which means no graving today
Very good, how do you feel right now?
better, its good that i really seem to have someone atm trying to support me:P
but still dont know what to do tomorrow or the next day after that when it occures
I know. That is a problem for me, too. I try to come to this website every day for at least a little while. If you can do that, maybe we can help each other. Right now, I am going to go to the kitchen, empty the dirty dishes out of the sink, get myself a tall glass of water and come back here in 10 minutes. Time starts, now. Go!
Whew! It is going to take me a bit longer than 10 minutes to clean up that mess. lol I do feel better, though. One of the reasons I binge is because I get lazy and bored with everyday tasks. I need a push to get moving. How ’bout you?
U really seem to want to help me. I was wondering, if i could get ur contact - ur messenger or something, cause i feel bit awkward discussing it online, so that random persons could read it and think like omg, what a lame person, better get a real life or etc. Well i know i have a problem, which comes and goes, and well atm its here again. And yes - there are more major things in the world to deal with. But still i think i need u. Just even as a person, who i know that counts on me, that i wount grave snacks at the party or at other events, time. Who i dont want to let down. Because believe me - its so easy to let down urself, ur the only one who can forgive urself and then again judge the most.
I also binge, when theres nothing better to do. If im cleaning, then i wont be able to eat. But lets say if im watching tv (( which i usually do when im bored )) then the movie is not attracting me - so i’ll go and grab a snack. But later i’ll get another one and onether - ending up constantly thinking what i’m eating next not what goes on tv.
and i really would like to help u - together in this similar situation u know :)
Of course, I am adding you as a friend here and opening my e-mail to you. If you do that, too, we can keep in touch. I wouldn’t worry about anyone here thinking you are lame for dealing with problem though. In fact, others here could take a cue from you. Many people say the are looking for help when they come here, but when they get advice, or others try to help, they find all kinds of reasons to reject the ideas. You should be proud of yourself for recognizing that you need to do something to help yourself.
dede wrote:
I also binge, when theres nothing better to do. If im cleaning, then i wont be able to eat. But lets say if im watching tv (( which i usually do when im bored )) then the movie is not attracting me - so i’ll go and grab a snack. But later i’ll get another one and onether - ending up constantly thinking what i’m eating next not what goes on tv.
and i really would like to help u - together in this similar situation u know :)
Yes, I can certainly use the help that you are offering. I love to snack, too. Loving food will kill me if I don’t watch out.
Did you drink your water?
Dede, I just realized that I can’t add you as a friend until your account get verified. We can shout each other, though. Do you want to do that?
yes i do - week or two ago i drunk every day at least a liter or more water. Usually i always carry a bottel of water with me. The idea is not to want to snack all the time, and it is said that water is good also. BUt of course, to be honest, i just know that water is the thing without calories.
ok, i added u ? did it work out - im not sure - im new at here :P as u probably already assumed
Yes, it worked. I have been using this website for quite a long time. I like your attitude. You are going to be a very wonderful helper. If you want to add me or anyone else you meet here, as a friend, you just click on the little blue man in the line next to their screen name. While you are taking care of that, I am going to go back to finish cleaning up my kitchen. I will be back in 10 minutes.
well in ur case, i cant do it anymore - otherwise i would remove u as a friend, and really dont want to do that. But thank u anyway. It seems to be nice place. Maybe i’ll visit it more often. Well during next time when im online - i probably will.
But i think soon i have to go to bed - see im from europe, and here its 1.30 am. But i really really like to be in touch with u soon.
Whats the time at us atm?
Oh my goodness! I am in California, USA. It is 4:30 pm. here. You need to sleep and I need to get more work done. We can work together on this. Next time, you can order me around. lol
ok then :D avoid binging, and until next time :) ANd i really hope u have finished the washing up
O, btw…Thanks to you, I avoided snacking for 2 hours and that is a big plus for me.
no you dont need someone to control you, thats not recovery at all. as soon as that person leaves youre right back where you started.
think of how you controlled it YOURSELF when you were doing well, and use those strategies.
you say its because you have nothing to do, well find something to do. keep yourself very busy.with anything you can think of.
recovering from ED is a process, it doesnt happen quickly and is very easy to shatter your progress.
courtybubble wrote:
no you dont need someone to control you, thats not recovery at all. as soon as that person leaves youre right back where you started.
think of how you controlled it YOURSELF when you were doing well, and use those strategies.
you say its because you have nothing to do, well find something to do. keep yourself very busy.with anything you can think of.
recovering from ED is a process, it doesnt happen quickly and is very easy to shatter your progress.
You are absolutely right. Controlling ones self is what it is all about. Good habits have to start somewhere. Medically supervised treatment would help, too. But, it never hurts to have the support of someone who cares, and many of us are looking for just that, when we come here.
With your background you could probably help both Dede and me. I can’t speak for Dede, but I would welcome any suggestions you think might be helpful.
well,
to be honest, it really does seem like it is boredom that is mostly contributing here. so keeping busy will help.
it also helps to keep a diary. then you can notice trends, like if yo notice you binge once a month at a certain time, or when a certain thought comes up, if you can notice this, its far easier to counteract it.
so documenting what is happening can really help.
for months i had to write down every negative anorexic thought i had and what was happening at the time, and it helped me to notice some trends so i could become aware of when the thoughts were likely to come and pre-emptively strike back.
accountability is also helpful. tell someone you trust and who you know wont ******** you every time it happens. so they can tell you what you need to hear, not waht you want to hear, and add some reality to the situation.
surround yourself with health. healthy foods. dont even have the temptations in the house, and youre far less likely to eat them.
and if you have to binge, try and do it with healthy, low fat low cal foods so youre not going to keep the cycle going with the “oh god im getting fat, mayaswell binge more” thoughts.
but the absolute first and foremost, and most important thing, is to figure out WHY this is happening, and WHERE it comes from.
my anorexia was a source of control for me, and i used it as a tool for when i felt out of control. it was very self destructive, but it WORKED. i felt more in control, no matter how much of an illusion that was. so your ED serves a purpose, it just does it disfunctionaly. if you can figure out what that purpose is, it is much much easier to find more constructive things to fill that purpose with.
Fantastic advice there, Courty. I am grateful. I just copied and printed it for future reference (like at 9pm tonight, when I will feel most like eating for no reason other than boredom and loneliness) and I hope Dede reads it too.
Time Traveller
dede
courtybubble