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Dilemma!

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I love my boyfriend but we have some really horrible times. For instance sometimes he likes to joke about but doesn’t know when to stop. I told him I want to break up with him and he didn’t want it but I just wish he owuld try to make the relationship work. He said he wasn’t happy with some things and I said I wasn’t happy with everything at the moment. Then he said he wanted to try and make it work that’s why he stays however I never saw him try and change a thing. He also comes back to me with things I’ve done when I try and tell him about his flaws which are completely worser than mines. I dont know how to make the relationship work because I really do love him loads and I know he loves me too. What do I do??? Help!!!

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Time Traveller offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

Maybe make a chart of the things you each do that the other doesn’t like and see if you each can decrease the frequencey of whatever is bothering the other.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

You guys need to take a break from each other to reassess your relationship to see if it’s worthwhile to continue.

No matter how much love you have for each other, is it really worth it all the hassle you guys are putting yourselves through? You keep that up, you guys are going to end up hating each other. That would be a shame after loving each other the way you have have.

Take a break and if you when you guys are on break you realize that you would be better as friends, that’s what I would recommend. At least you would not hate each other and at least would remember each other with some kind of tenderness and love.

If you end up as friends, at least you guys can be there for each other for the sake of the love you guys have had for each other and who knows when you realize that you guys are meant to be together both of you will make a better effort at trying to make things work out for the better. If not, you will always be friends no matter what.

But, it would be a shame if you end up hating each other because you guys could not come to an understanding in your relationship while making each other more miserable than you deserve to be.

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Pac's Queen offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (15 hours, 31 minutes after post)

pickle chip wrote:
Maybe make a chart of the things you each do that the other doesn’t like and see if you each can decrease the frequencey of whatever is bothering the other.

Sounds like a good idea actually. Thanks for the help!!!

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Pac's Queen offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (15 hours, 33 minutes after post)

Thanks littlenick that is a very good idea. I think I’ll do that. I know we love each other and if the loves that strong we’ll come back together. EXCELLENT!!!

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redletterprin offline Verified User (3 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 day after post)

No ” Dilemma” just accept each other the way you are ! Nobody is perfect ! Remember true love is stronger than any flaw / bad habit or past experience !

God Bless!

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Pac's Queen offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 11 hours after post)

redletterprin wrote:
No ” Dilemma” just accept each other the way you are ! Nobody is perfect ! Remember true love is stronger than any flaw / bad habit or past experience !

God Bless!

But the thing with that is I have accepted him but he keeps adding new things to his personality like this new aggressive playful side and he doesn’t seem to understand that I don’t like playing those games especially when he can tell I’ve had enough play fighting. Maybe the real him is coming out now

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