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Is there any help for a depressed 20 yr old?

My life sucks. So much beauty but so much pain at the same time. I live in a beautiful house in the suburbs, have a wonderfully supportive and nurturing mother, and have rarely gone without anything that I wanted. But I have no friends, and hence, no social life. I’m an insomniac and am very unhappy with my life.
When I graduated high school I got thrown into an awful college that was more like a secondary high school. I failed my first semester there because I was disappointed with the school which led me to get involved with other things. I was always depressed, and what ultimately got me flunked out was when I locked myself in my room for a week and didn’t go to my classes. Not to mention, my insomnia was ignited (so to speak) here.
After that I was lucky enough to continue my schooling at one of the schools other campuses which I hated and was dissapointed and still depressed.
But I fought through it just to get out so I can go to another school and get the college experience socitety has been promising me my whole entire life.
I left that school, but my boughts with insomnia had me take a break from school for a semester. This time was spent lying in bed in a room (I’m serious).
I got a life that following summer and finally had some friends but cut them lose when I found out I had been excepted into my NEW college, plus, they were mean to me.
I thought this new college was going to be the end all be all for me, it was my last chance at hsppiness, it failed me.
I’m currently at a school where I’m isolated ,and misunterstood, and somewhat intergated. On top of that, the campus is extresemly small with no events whatsoever.

I still have no friends
I can’t sleep
And I’m extreemly disapponted with my life, this is not what I wanted for myself

I know this doesn’t seem like much but it is, and I left a lot of stuff out because I wanted to summarize.
Everday I feel like crying, I have nothing to look forward to. I’ve been miserable for a long time, when will it end.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

1. Ok. first of all, I think you shold get treated for your insomnia…however, one of the symptoms of depression is insomnia (like what I have), so you might wanna try antidepressants. Let me tell you, they make you numb, but you learn to appreciate a lot of stuff when you get off of them. Which you will do eventually after you’ve gotten back on your feet and out of this slump.

2. School isn’t necessarily where you’re supposed to find happiness…it’s where you go to get an education and sure you could make a few friends on the way, but if you don’t, then it’s not the end of the world. I find that happiness is found in the most unexpected places sometimes. Like on the swings at 12am. Just do something fun.

3. when you said “I have nothing to look forward to”, you’re very mistaken. You have tomorrow to look forward to. It’s your chance at a new beginning! Carpe Diem! Sieze the day! Get up and go do something you love.

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Bonjov #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

Thanks for your reply singer.

I’ve been to quite a few therapist, all of which were awful and the satisfactory ones didn’t help. I’m not convinced that I have clinical depression, I’m just a person upset with thisr life. My insomnia, has built up over time.I’ve tried every sleep med you can think of, none of them work.

I agree with you on the education part but school (when your my age) is a place to develop friendships and a social life. And I live on campus so this need is magnified.

Thank you for your help !

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Neutra 83 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Uuhhgg, this brings some memories. I have been pretty much where you are now, except the school part. Me I was going to go to college at one point but then remembered what high school was like, which was pretty similar to some of the stuff you said in your post.

Honestly, the truth is that this may never end or atleast not be completely over. There will always be apart of you that will say that you wish that something in life was better, even if you get your education and graduate and get your top job you will always wonder if there will be something better for you out there somewhere. Personally it may seem that you are taking too much time in concentrating on college, which isn’t a bad thing actually a good thing, just don’t let it consume you. You have to take time for yourself as well as you put into studies. You see, some people have to take a year off from college to get some stuff strait before they can continue. This sounds alittle like yourself. Take time to enjoy the small stuff in life, don’t wait for tomorrow or when you get things more complete to enjoy life. You should be happy now not later. You will see that some time off will make difference.

Also, it’s unfortunate about your friends. Truth about that is friends come and go in our lives. Who may be our best friend at the time may not be later on in life no matter how much we want to spend more time with them. Time changes people and what was good before may not be the best thing now. Eventually you are going to meet other people as well who will befriend you. It’s a continuous cycle and you should remember the experiences of your former friends as it may help develop other relations. However, don’t just remember the bad things that happened. Take time to cherrish the good moments that you spent with them. They were put into your life for a specific part of life and are meant to guide you in the time that they appear. Hope you feel better though.

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Bonjov #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Thank you so much nuetra, very well put.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

Sometimes I find if we are under stimulated or bored it will bring on a sense of depression. You’re 20 and will have days and events like that. What sets you a part from the majority is you are doing something about it:)

I think that’s why they invited outlets…lol. Healthy ones!!!! They come with less strings. One or two good friends are worth more and less trouble then a whole lots of bad ones.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (13 hours, 51 minutes after post)

Well it seems like you need to make friends, not just any friends but ppl who care about you,

1. you need to speak to your college therapist/ counsellor
2. Join some societies that interest you
3. See your Doctor regarding your insomnia, also tell him about your depression
maybe he could be able to help.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

I know how you feel. One thing you should know about everyone and their struggles, is that each of our problems cant be compared. The physical only makes up half of why we are depressed. It is what is in your head, and how you view these issues..that determines how bad your issues are. Im a 20 yr old female, physically I am really pretty, I have friends and can make many…but there is another side to me. It is the insecure, sad, lonely and too eccentric side, that has always been there. Ive always felt like I wasnt like everyone else…not human. I feel like Ill never find a guy like me, who is excepting of so called, “flaws” and weaknesses in a person. I love people for these things…but I feel they could never be the same with me. —thats a tiny summary of my life VERY tiny lol. Whoever you are, Im here for you to vent. my email is i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> Im here for you

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