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I’ve had this amazing friend for three years who I really and truly love.

We have always been there for each other and we think of each other as brother and sister, there is no sexual attraction whatsoever. She’s the best friend I could ever ask for.

We’ve always been sort of accountability partners and we’ve kept each other from doing anything too bad. We go to seperate parties almost every weekend and neither one of us drinks or has sex or anything like that we know would upset each other.

Recently, she has started hanging out with a new group of friends that aren’t very good influences on her. Just about an hour ago she called me so that we could talk about what happend at our seperate parties like we always do. She told me that she did some things and wanted to do some more things that I just wasn’t willing to accept. She’s my best friend that has always been my inspiration for avoiding stuff like that.

I started crying on the phone with her and had to hang up. I haven’t cried in years. She has just always been a sort of role model for me and I couldn’t grasp the reality of her doing things we said we never would. I know that everyone does stuff like that, and that I should probably just get over it and stop being such a baby, but I want to know if there is anything that I can do to try and cope better?

I also think that I should apologize for crying oin the phone with her, so if anyone has any advice on how to go about doing that, that would be great.

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JeremiahC offline Verified User (3 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (49 minutes after post)

“She told me that she did some things and wanted to do some more things that I just wasn’t willing to accept,” is kind of unclear. Is she doing thins that are illegal or will harm her in some way?

Why don’t you ask her to go to the parties you go to?

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SingerInPurple offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (50 minutes after post)

Well you say that she was your “role model”, so I’m guessing you put her on a pedistool in your head, so when she went and did what she did, I understand why you’d be devistated. Sometimes people aren’t always who you think they are….I’m not saying she’s a bad person, but you’re young, and people can still change. I felt like this when I found out that one of my siblings had started doing pot. There’s really nothing you can do to stop them, just tell them that they’re hurting you. If I were you, I’d have a talk with her, and just tell her what she’s doing to you, and then just say you’re sorry for crying, but you don’t want her to get hurt or whatever it is you truely feel. Hang in there. I hope it all works out, and remember, we all go through phases in life, and sometimes we do things just to fit in, but “In the end, everything is OK. If it’s not OK, then it’s not the end.”

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redletterprin offline Verified User (4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 2 minutes after post)

You should phone her and support her, I am sure she also regrets her mistakes. Although she is your role model she is also human, and humans make mistakes from time to time. Be the best friend you can be. This action should help you!

God Bless!

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