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“last post about him, then I promise to move on XD”

Moved on yet?

Well, now that that has been dealt with, what now are you going to do?

Poems have to rhyme ******

Have I taught you nothing??!?!

i liked that. i feel like i’m at a funeral too. it’s like i’m finally in the last stage of mourning-acceptance, but it took me a year to get there.

I’m just playing anyway.
Protip though, you’re expecting to feel different at some point, Expecting that somehow you’ll know it’s over or something is going to happen and then you’ll be over him. But it’s not going to work like that.
It just takes alot of time, you’re going to be miserable some days as I know you’ve been and happy but importantly timid. Slowly It’ll shift over to the latter 2. Importantly though you won’t notice how far you’ve actually gone until you’ve gotten there.

I just logged onto help for the boredum of waiting for something to install and It’s a neat coincidence I run into the fabled “Singer In Scarlet” =O

Cat in the hat, and that was that.

Singer_Scarlett wrote:

lil night owl wrote:
i liked that. i feel like i’m at a funeral too. it’s like i’m finally in the last stage of mourning-acceptance, but it took me a year to get there.

it was a year for you?? wow, it’s only been like a month for me. But then again, feeling any sort of emotion is a big deal for me…especially if it goes on for a month. Thanks for reading it though

yeah it was a year ago he actually broke up with me. the first couple of months after breaking up i cried almost every day =/ then for months later i started feeling better but we continued to talk and he said he missed me, and i got my hopes up. we started seeing each other recently and tried to be friends, though our interactions were very couple-like. and it was just me trying to make him see that we could make it work because we still loved eachother (well i thought he did). but he made it clear he did not want to be in a relationship with me, and i decided to stop doing this to myself and to stop contacting him. all the while i still wanted him to love me…this was like last week. it’s so hard to make myself not call him, i deleted his number from my phone and everything. but im just finally accepting that it’s really over, and i’m better than before, not crying everything, but there’s like this tone of sadness in the background…like in a funeral.

Singer_Scarlett wrote:

lil night owl wrote:

yeah it was a year ago he actually broke up with me. the first couple of months after breaking up i cried almost every day =/ then for months later i started feeling better but we continued to talk and he said he missed me, and i got my hopes up. we started seeing each other recently and tried to be friends, though our interactions were very couple-like. and it was just me trying to make him see that we could make it work because we still loved eachother (well i thought he did). but he made it clear he did not want to be in a relationship with me, and i decided to stop doing this to myself and to stop contacting him. all the while i still wanted him to love me…this was like last week. it’s so hard to make myself not call him, i deleted his number from my phone and everything. but im just finally accepting that it’s really over, and i’m better than before, not crying everything, but there’s like this tone of sadness in the background…like in a funeral.

wow…my ex and I were more like best friends. He even said he liked me more than his best friend…but now I just don’t know anything anymore…and frankly, I don’t really care. I just realized…like last week that I don’t have to be friends with him…but I really want to be. But I’m glad you stopped contacting him. I did that the second week, and I haven’t talked to him in…wow it’s been exactly one month. I’m doing fine. Like, sure things remind me of him, but it doesn’t hurt anymore. I’m kinda bummed out thhough….I like being sad. It’s much better than feeling nothing. Oh and I totally deleted his number from my phone too, but I have it memorized, and my memory is pretty good when I’m not depressed haha

could you be friends with him and not want to kiss him or hold him? would it hurt to see him with someone else?

Singer_Scarlett wrote:

lil night owl wrote:

yeah it was a year ago he actually broke up with me. the first couple of months after breaking up i cried almost every day =/ then for months later i started feeling better but we continued to talk and he said he missed me, and i got my hopes up. we started seeing each other recently and tried to be friends, though our interactions were very couple-like. and it was just me trying to make him see that we could make it work because we still loved eachother (well i thought he did). but he made it clear he did not want to be in a relationship with me, and i decided to stop doing this to myself and to stop contacting him. all the while i still wanted him to love me…this was like last week. it’s so hard to make myself not call him, i deleted his number from my phone and everything. but im just finally accepting that it’s really over, and i’m better than before, not crying everything, but there’s like this tone of sadness in the background…like in a funeral.

wow…my ex and I were more like best friends. He even said he liked me more than his best friend…but now I just don’t know anything anymore…and frankly, I don’t really care. I just realized…like last week that I don’t have to be friends with him…but I really want to be. But I’m glad you stopped contacting him. I did that the second week, and I haven’t talked to him in…wow it’s been exactly one month. I’m doing fine. Like, sure things remind me of him, but it doesn’t hurt anymore. I’m kinda bummed out thhough….I like being sad. It’s much better than feeling nothing. Oh and I totally deleted his number from my phone too, but I have it memorized, and my memory is pretty good when I’m not depressed haha

it’s good you don’t care what he thinks anymore. now you can focus on yourself =) the more i think about what happened the less i know, but i guess that’s ok.

Stop using dirty words. o_o

me? i just used k!ss and kuddle…. it always does that to me.

So you’re coming on to me?

lol is there something you’re not supposed to talk about on help.com i’m not aware of? or maybe certain smileys make them confused? i never know what it is i’m doing wrong. i agree about them being great words.

is this about a guy?
ya know they say, for as long as you dated him, it takes half as long as that to get over them, and then you add on certain amounts of time for like, if you were engaged or if he cheated or whatever
so as a rough guide, that can help.
idk hw long you went out, but being broke up for a month isnt that long, dont rush it, grief is not meant to be rushed.

Very nicely done,

I like how it wasn’t that emo and like, ohhh omg I miss him, I loved him and etc.
Yeah. It’s good stuff.

I’ll try to help you forget him! ;) But as you said, once school starts BOTH our minds will be way too occupied to really focus on it too much.

it honestly took me about that long to get over my ex who i dated for just over a year.
but yea, once i started Uni again for the year, i was so frikkin busy it was hard to have time to think about him, and it helps you realise you have other things in your life that are good too.
i also bought a puppy. that helped hehe.

i wish hed bloody hurry up.

Very cute and very well ended!