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It is not that you attract a- hole’s, it’s just that there are a LOT of them out there so it is inevitable that you are going to come across quite a few of them.
Some of the most interesting 40yr old’s i know still don’t know what they want to do with their lives.
You already know drinking is not the answer, you say it can lead to depression, it sound’s to me like you already are suffering with depression, try to solve that first.
You have to be able to love yourself before you can have anyone else love you.
You are young & in too much of a hurry to grow up, i don’t see why the fact you are not in a relationship bothers you so much, it’s really not such a big deal.
You have your whole life for that.

basicly, i know exactly how u feel, people tell me im a nice guy, gd looking ect, but i neva seem to find any1, it does get me down and very depressed because it makes me think am i going to be alone the rest of my life to, scares me so much! im starting to think tho, im trying to find the one, to much, i think maybe the best thing to do is just sit back and let love find u, but i know how u feel, its a horibal feeling.

Hi, it sounds to me like you need to take control of your life a little more, easy for me to say I know but try to step back from everything and look at it from an outside point of view. How would you advise a friend in your situation. Personally I think you need to try to lose the feeling that you need somebody, enjoy you as a peron. Once you are happy with yourself then you will be in a position to be happy with someone else. Mind games are a terrible thing. If you like a guy, try to accept him for himself, if you begin to act suspicious and “investigate” as you put it you will always put him off. It is hard I know, especially if you have had a bad experience but trust is the most important thing in a relationship. If a guy thinks you are suspicious of him it will turn him off faster than anything. Believe it or not there are many good guys out there. You say you sleep a lot, that is not a good thing, it suggest depression setting in. I know it is not considered cool but I really would suggest you consider joining some kind of club. Think about what you really enjoy doing and see if you can find a club that does something of that kind. It is a really good way to meet new people who are like minded. This does not have to be the way to meet someone but it will give you something to focus on and if you are happier you will come across that way. Men cannot stand women who are feeling unhappy all the time, they like happy smiley people who are comfortable with themselves. I hope this helps a little, good luck x

Hi,
I know exactly how you feel! I am also 20 and about to graduate…and i have been feeling extemely lonely. I know it is often difficult to describe this feeling because it seems on the outside that you shouldn’t be lonely. You may have alot of friends, a good family, and be really involved. I know for myself this is definately the case but i still feel like i have no one to call my own or anyone who truly understands me that i can talk to. It seems like you have alot to ofer the world and yet no boys really want to take interest in you the way you want. All I can say is that I understand how you feel and for you to know that you are not alone! I will be thinking of you and praying for you. I have recently started a mentoring program at my church and have become close with my mentor who is 5 years older. I have found that we have alot in common and she is one person i don’t have to act differently for. i can be myself and speak my feelings without playing a part. I hope that you could find someone like this. Please know that i care and you are not alone!

I feel exactly like you and the same things have happenned to me, I don’t understand why. So many people have told me that a lot of girls like me, but I just don’t seem to get it. I am 25 and I have never had an official relationship. I get really sad because I don’t have anyone to give my love to and feel so sad about that. I am not in a desperate point, but I don’t want to wake up tomorrow being old and thinking that I missed life because i couldn’t get over myself…

I will say this to you even when I don’t know you because I am tired of thinking inside the box.

Leave the guy you are with, let’s start a relationship. I live in Indiana. We would both work towards a common goal because we both want the same thing which is someone to love.

We don’t have to be alone if we don’t want to.

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