Pictures help: My fiance has been receiving pictures on his cell phone from a friend of his who is a girl.

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My fiance has been receiving pictures on his cell phone from a friend of his who is a girl.

The pictures are not nudity or anything, but there’s at least 6 of them of her face and a couple of her posing (not suggestively) in a short skirt and dresses.

He doesn’t know I have seen the pictures and has not volunteered the information. It bothers me that this girl continues to send him these messages, especially since they work together at his part time job a lot. He has NOT sent any pictures of any kind to her, but I know they text message each other very very often (I can’t see the messages because he deletes them, so they could be completely innocent dumb messages).

Am I crazy to be upset? I guess I don’t understand why she sends these pictures when he’s engaged and we’re getting married in 2 months. And she’s like 8 years younger than us.

Any thoughts would be appreciated, thanks!

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Cell 63 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

I would say let him know that it bothers you. I would tell my guy that it is not ok.

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annonymou #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

I’m scared he’ll get mad at me for looking on his phone. Like that I don’t trust him or something. When really I was looking for a picture I sent him once, and came across all those messages.

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Cell 63 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

You don’t trust him. And possibly/probably for good reason. Honestly, sometimes your gut feelings are right.

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Intransition 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

Cell wrote:
You don’t trust him. And possibly/probably for good reason. Honestly, sometimes your gut feelings are right.

I agree. If it’s innocent, I wonder what would keep him from telling you?

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tallulah 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

I wouldn’t be ok with that, it’s fine having female friends, fine having photos of them from nights out / trips / other reasons he’d have pictures of friends male OR female. But just getting sent random photos of someone is a problem in itself…

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gimli 1 #
Marietta, GA, US | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

Here’s what I would do: ask your boyfriend to introduce you to her. If he’s uncomfortable with it, then you have some serious thinking to do. If he agrees, then it’s possible that he doesn’t think it’s anything more than friendship.

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hockeymaniac500 24 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Guys, don’t nail in the image of him not being innocent. If it is innocent would it come across your mind to tell somebody? It could be something as simple as she was getting ready for a date and asked how she looked? Just talk to him. Don’t think anything of it, and tell him that you were looking for something you sent.

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Fuzzy Pepper 66 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (45 minutes after post)

Maybe he is innocent….MAYBE.

But the girl who is sending him pics (whether suggestive pics or not) is NOT innocent. She’s trying hard to get his attention and to not look slutty while doing it (ie: the NON-suggestive pics…for now)

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hockeymaniac500 24 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (51 minutes after post)

True, but as long as he doesn’t act on it, he is fine. Why anger a co worker and start conflict over something that doesn’t seem like a major deal to him? Now if his fiance asks him to stop, then it is worth stopping, not before.

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Joey_PR 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (57 minutes after post)

Anon poster, seems to me you are making excuses for this guy. Let him know you came across ‘em and see what he says.
I would say he deletes the texts bc he knows they would get him in trouble.

But then again only he knows, and until you ask, this whole situation it will eat you up.
Go for it, in a nice, subtle non-accusal way.

darliy #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (3 days, 7 hours after post)

I want to know the answer but i don know how to type!

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darliy #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (3 days, 7 hours after post)

U are CRAZY!

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capijenlov #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

I am going thru the same situation. except it was suggestive, even tho that’s the only pics she takes, myspace style. he says they’ve been friends for 2 years. we’re engaged. I asked him to stop the contact, he did but didn’t tell her and she still texts him. For instance, this morning I saw a text from her saying good morning and have a good friday. I absolutely hate this crap, he swears its innocent. I’ve never met her or heard of her before this, and we’ve been living together for over 2 years. I don’t know WHAT the hell to tell you. Maybe some advice for me?

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Joey_PR 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

capijenlov wrote:
I am going thru the same situation. except it was suggestive, even tho that’s the only pics she takes, myspace style. he says they’ve been friends for 2 years. we’re engaged. I asked him to stop the contact, he did but didn’t tell her and she still texts him. For instance, this morning I saw a text from her saying good morning and have a good friday. I absolutely hate this crap, he swears its innocent. I’ve never met her or heard of her before this, and we’ve been living together for over 2 years. I don’t know WHAT the hell to tell you. Maybe some advice for me?

How about this? :
Take his cell, reply nicely to her text and ask her to stop, signed “Thank you! -His fiance”.

Let him know it makes you feel like crap.
Would it bother him if you received texts from another guy?
Hmmm…

Your call.
=)

Take care.

brent_kipfe #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

so how did this end up did you guy get married

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