I cheated on my boyfriend because I’m so insecure. - Help.com

You can’t live with it. When my ex cheated on me and tried to hide it, i got more angry because he wasn’t honest with me. If he was i can honestly tell you right now that i would have given him a second chance.

No. You cheated on your boyfriend because you are unable to follow through on your commitments, unable to be responsible to people’s reasonable expectations of you, and are unable to be up front and honest with yourself and others. If you say you’re going to do something, then do it. Don’t make excuses. If you know someone is going to expect you to remain monogamous in a relationship with them, then either don’t go into that relationship, or be monogamous. If you tell the truth, whatever will be will be, and it will probably be for the better. That would have kept you out of this situation in the first place. If you had either told your boyfriend that you might not be able to remain monogamous, or if you had told the guy or girl you cheated with that you were in a monogamous relationship and you didn’t want to jeopardize that. The first step to honesty is to be honest with yourself and realize that you’ve made a mistake and you’re going to have to pay for it in some way or another. Everything has a price.

The longer you keep inside, the more it’s going to eat you up. And it’s going to keep on bothering you. If you really a woman of good character, you have no choice but to fess up to your boyfriend and tell him the truth. If you keep it and don’t tell him, sooner or later you will think to yourself that since the first time was easy and you weren’t found out, it will be easy to do it again. Tell him and let the chips fall where they may at least for your own mental health and peace of mind.

I can tell you what I would if I was your boyfriend, I would tell you go get yourself tested for any STDs and then dump you.

My boyfriend has always been so wonderfully supportive but we’ve been apart for most of the past year. I’ve been having a tough time anyway, with most of my friends far away too I was so lonely. I know what I did was wrong I would take it back if I could but I suppose it was just a way of getting what I needed at the time.

He is the one thing I have going for me and I feel that if I’ve messed that up then there’s not much point in life. I’ll never get another chance so I might as well give up.

I want to kill myself anyway. i’m not a bad person i just did a bad and stupid stupid thing.

Nobody said anything about you being a bad person. But this is the part where your honesty and integrity should come into play. Tell your boyfriend and come clean. I think that if he sees true remorse on your part, he will forgive you and then both of you can move on from there.

Yeah, though it may seem a little harsh, I agree with New American Atheist. The response is direct, maybe not the hug and friendly advice you were hoping for, but very true, nontheless.

I’m a bit more of a touch-feely person, though, so I’m gonna extend the offer of a hug anyway. You can wipe your nose on my shoulder, too, if you really must, but re read N.A.A’s post. Steel yourself for the worst when you ‘fess up, but remember, whatever happens, this can be the turning point in your life. From here you can start to figure out, what in your life has so damaged your self esteem? Do you want to keep repeating the pattern, over and over? Are you going to do what is necessary to make things different, from now on?

So: Big hugs, nice mug of tea, lots of tissues, but then: the nitty-gritty. If you love and respect your b/f then you must tell him. Hopefully he will forgive and love will reign; but even if a less favoured outcome transpires, you must learn from this lesson, or doom yourself to repeating the mistake over again.

Good luck. Be strong.

Pretty lame excuse for cheating if you ask me. Yeah just tell your boyfriend you sleep with any guy that shows interest because you are so insecure and I am sure he will forgive you… NOT!!! You are busted because the guy will tell everyone there is no secret to keep.