boyfriend help: Hi_Sai’s boyfriend dilema: To break up or not to break up (And how)?

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Hi_Sai’s boyfriend dilema: To break up or not to break up (And how)?

Okay. So. Having some major issues with the current boyfriend of two months.

The boy…He just gets on my nerves, really. I’ve been screening his calls so I don’t have to talk to him, and suddenly I’ve become very “busy” so we can’t hang out.

I don’t know anymore. Everybody is telling me I should break up with him. They say we’re not right for each other. They say he doesn’t treat me right. But *I* say I’ve just…lost that lovin’ feeling.

Being with him now is so…tedious. I mean…I can’t stand to hear him talk. Like omg. SHUT UP.

There’s just…Nothing on my end anymore. And I feel so bad because he still cares for me. (I still care for him, don’t get me wrong). BUT!!!! URGH! I just don’t wanna be his girlfriend anymore!

God, please help. I mean. I’ve tried thinking of ways to break up with him but everytime I get closer and closer to an actual possible situation something holds me back. I dunno. I guess I’m not ready to give this kid up yet. Or maybe I’m just so afraid of being alone. But I can’t keep PRETENDING I have feelings for him that just aren’t there.

Idk. Idk. I wanna be with the person I was with when we first started going out. You know, when we were still in that “get to know you” phase. God. Poor kid. I didn’t even realize I was setting expectations for him until it occurred to me that he wasn’t living up [to my expectations].

If I break up with him… I will be lonely.

If I stay with him… I will be sad and make him miserable.

IS THERE ANY HOPE!!!

*SIGH*

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(>'')>~~~Kyle 6 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

Well, from reading the first 4 paragraphs I’d say call it off. My personal opinion, but hey, im a guy ;P. Get some women opinions

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Hi_Sai 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

Thanks for trying xD Here’s a cookie *hands you a cookie*

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(>'')>~~~Kyle 6 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

Hi_Sai wrote:
Thanks for trying xD Here’s a cookie *hands you a cookie*

Hot Dang! This beats chocolate muffins by a long shot ;P

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Hi_Sai 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

hahaha x]

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Sans 57 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (26 minutes after post)

(>'’)>~~~Kyle wrote:

Hi_Sai wrote:
Thanks for trying xD Here’s a cookie *hands you a cookie*

Hot Dang! This beats chocolate muffins by a long shot ;P

What kind of cookies do we get? (he asks before giving the adivce)

sophiepc 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (32 minutes after post)

umm im tthinnking a break up would be the best for this situation….
if ur really lonley listen to self empwering single girl songs, there are alott of them. just no its better, and u might miss him at first, but in the end, i think ull figure that its better for both of you.

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THE INTERNET 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (34 minutes after post)

hmm. perhaps its time for a break up.
you will find other people, and these others might be better for you than this one is.
it is up to you in the end

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Hi_Sai 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (36 minutes after post)

Sans wrote:

(>'’)>~~~Kyle wrote:

Hi_Sai wrote:
Thanks for trying xD Here’s a cookie *hands you a cookie*

Hot Dang! This beats chocolate muffins by a long shot ;P

What kind of cookies do we get? (he asks before giving the adivce)

Magic cookie, Sans. It can be whatever you like :D

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Sans 57 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (57 minutes after post)

Hi_Sai wrote:

Sans wrote:

(>'’)>~~~Kyle wrote:

Hi_Sai wrote:
Thanks for trying xD Here’s a cookie *hands you a cookie*

Hot Dang! This beats chocolate muffins by a long shot ;P

What kind of cookies do we get? (he asks before giving the adivce)

Magic cookie, Sans. It can be whatever you like :D

Perfect! Okay, here it is. It’s hard advice, and I’m giving it because I’ve recently been through a very, very similar situation. Be honest. Just tell him. Get it over with. In the long run it will be better that way. Scrap all of the excuses, the evasions, the little lies and the big ones. Just tell him that you don’t have strong enough feelings for him to continue the relationship. Be clear. Keep discussion to an absolute minimum. Don’t leave any ambiguity for him to hold onto. Somewhere out there a girl will like him enough to keep him. They both should have a chance to find each other. And there are guys out there for you too. It’s NOT a race. Take your time. Be choosy.

BTW, I choose to make mine a molasses cookie with sugar sprinkled on top.

courtybubble 176 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 22 minutes after post)

youve pretty much already broken up with him. he just doesnt know it yet.

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