im really hurt and sad.

lexihope

im really hurt and sad.

my boyfriend is suffering a little bit of depression and im trying to be there for him. so today i was talking to him and i was telling him that im trying to talk to him and help him. he said “omg u should be the last person to help someone who is on the edge. not only would u convince them to do it but u would convince them to do it faster than planned.” ive been sensitive these days and i havent been able to sleep thinking that hes sad and depressed. and he really hurt me when he said that. and u dont know how much ive tried to talk to him and seem happy for him even when i am sad. ive been giving him advice and trying to be his girl. and today like a little while ago he said that and he hurt my feelings. u dont need to reply. but thanks for listening.

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dave1971199 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

When someone is suffering from depression, they tend to lash out verbally. It could be that you had nothing to do with his out burst. I would still try to make him realise that it’s not fair to talk to you like that. He needs to be reminded how lucky he is to have a girlfriend. Not everyone is that fortunate.

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lexihope 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

well yea i understand. thats why i didnt tell him anything but he kinda saw that i got sad. then he told me not to take anything he says personally. but still hurt my feelings :/

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dave1971199 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

I would speak to him and get him to understand that as tough as his situation is, he needs to be more sensitive when speaking to you. Maybe he needs to count to ten before he speaks. Words can cut deep if we don’t think carefully before we speak.

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lexihope 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

well i guess thats true. i just dont want him to get any sadder.

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dave1971199 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

Think of it this way.

If you was going to give some bad news, you would first say something positive. Then you would point out the flaws that need to be worked on.

Remind him how much you care and all the good things he does, then bring up the way he speaks to you but, try to make it not seem too important. Just say that it’s something he needs to work on and maybe add something you think you need to work on as well. That way he won’t feel too bad.

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lexihope 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

oh i see. okay ill try that. thanks :)

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dave1971199 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

good luck

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lexihope 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

thanks :]

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Likkle-Bit 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (55 minutes after post)

i really have to say his you’re such a great girlfriend he might have said what he said off impulse take no offence for now talk to him when he calms down they like to be left alone.

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melxo #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 45 minutes after post)

use nature walks if you are close to the beach the beach if the mountains mountains you dont have to force any subject it will start by its self try it ..:)

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lexihope 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (13 hours, 49 minutes after post)

Likkle-Bit wrote:
i really have to say his you’re such a great girlfriend he might have said what he said off impulse take no offence for now talk to him when he calms down they like to be left alone.

aww thank you. well i think that might be true. its just that i love him so much and i dont want him to hurt himself. and will try to talk to him when he wants to talk.

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lexihope 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (13 hours, 50 minutes after post)

melxo wrote:
use nature walks if you are close to the beach the beach if the mountains mountains you dont have to force any subject it will start by its self try it ..:)

thanks :) ill see if he wants to.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

Hey Lexi, Can you send in a note.

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lexihope 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

hi. wat note?

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