Love help: how do u stop a friend from makin her bigest mistake of her life? - Help.com

I’m afraid you can’t. All you can do is be there for her. Being pregnant by this guy, makes her want to become a family with him. They are both very young, but this is something she will have to go through and learn the hard way. Does he want to marry her? For the sake of the child I hope they grow up fast and try to make the necessary changes to give this child a good chance in life. She will grow as for him, well only time will tell. The more you show disapproval of him, the more you will drive a wedge between you and her, just be there for her. All of us sadly have to learn from our mistakes.Lets just wish that the arrival of this precious child will make them both act like responsible parents. You are a good and caring friend it seems for her, but this has to be her decision solely. Like him or not, she has to decide for herself. let’s hope she makes the right decision. All the best to everyone and especially this child :D

You tell her parents. You cant get married at 16 or 15 without parental consent…and he has to agree….and it sounds like he wouldn’t…

davistoocut wrote:
the guy beats up her little brother…and her parents think that shes stupid so they would be happy to let her get married…

…has he even asked her? Your forgetting about HIS parents. THEY BOTH need parental consent. People talk a lot of **** - these are the kind of things people talk about and dont actually go through with…like moving to Europe or quitting their job and giving up all their money to live in the woods. Best thing to do…use reverse physiology.

davistoocut wrote:
well their havin a fake weeding right now…its pretty much sayin to everyone that their really commited to each other…both their parents think its ok…

well you cant really tie her up until she changes her mind…my vote is it wont end up happening. I mean…come on…some parents let their kids do stupid things and step in at the last possible moment and say “ok this isnt happening”

Talk to her parents if you are that concerned and try to change THEIR mind.

Well either she hates you now (until she realizes you were right) and doesnt get married or she gets married to this douchebag at 16. You choose.

there really is nothing you can do to stop her from making her own descisions. im sure youve made your opinion clear. as her friend now all you can do is support her right to make her own choice and be there to help her pick up the pieces if it all goes wrong. she’ll appreciate this much more than you arguing with her, and maybe she’ll come to the right descision in her own time. just never say i told you so if it all goes the way you think it will. i realise that she’s your friend and you just want what’s best for her, but she needs to live her own life, and possibly make her own mistakes. as her friend you just need to stay by her side and be there for her.

well this time she’s got a baby to think about, so im sure she’ll be more careful about how she reacts. all of us break down after a bad breakup but we get through it. and im sure she’ll get through with great support from friends like you

Becoming a mother will have her growing up fast. Why focus on her past regarding suicide. Try to focus on a positive outcome. Becoming a mom I doubt she will think of suicide if things don’t work out with the father. Her main concern will be for the safety and welfare of her child at that point. Babies can change people. Let’s just hope it’s a positive one for all concerned.

sadly you cant do anything… i mean you can tell her as a friend to REALLY consider and look at it from all angles.. and to take the guys past into consideration.. but im afraid the only one who can decide is her.. you can give all the advice in the world to her and tell her that her guyis no good a million times.. but until she realizes that she deserves and needs more there isnt much of anything to do but to be there for her when he makes her feel like crap and to comfort her when she is feeling unappreciated.. because judging from how you talk about him thats what hes going to make her feel like…

davistoocut wrote:
yeah…u guys are right…so why do i still have a bed feeling in my stomach that the dads gonna do somethin so stupid…and just ruin everything…

It’s just a fear you have. Dont dwell on it.

the dads probly done somthing like it before and you have that bad feeling because he WILL do it again.. im sorry but guys like that always eff things up.. but i dont know maybe realizing hes going to hav a baby changed him completely .. but if you have a gut instinct.. you should roll on it becasue most likely thats whats going to happen.. i just hope oyur friend can deal with it when it happens.. :) not much i can say im sorry but i hope i helped