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Ugh I’m disgusting.

I kind of enjoyed being single and okay with it for a few days. I found out that my ex boyfriend had been cheating on me and whatever I felt for him just evaporated and left me feeling really free. It was nice to hang out with friends and be just me, on my own, not one big “me and him” combination. But now I am already missing having someone, I don’t miss him in particular but I do miss having a guy, and arrgh that independent feeling is gone. It was so good. I was so strong. Now I feel like I’m going to fall for the first bit of attention I get just for the chance of being in someone’s arms again. Why am I suddenly so weak when I was so together literally two days ago?

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davistoocut offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

how long did u 2 date?

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Help me with: im 14 and not sleeping.
hopelikefire4 offline Verified User (9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

Just over a year, I think the final count was a year and 1 month.

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davistoocut offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

thats probably why ur missing him so much…u guys were together for a while and ur just used to talkin to him and tellin him ur problems and when ur happy talkin to him…but trust me that will be different once u get over him

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Help me with: im 14 and not sleeping.
aeolian mode offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 Add Friend #
Rocklin, CA, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

Its only natural to be a couple… Nobody really wants to be alone… You may be able to find a guy who will love you and also give you some independence.. I know that too much togetherness brings problems, as it did for me…

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davistoocut offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

well i know no one wants to be alone but its not healthy to just strive to be in a perfect relationship…

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c-eek offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

What you are feeling is normal grieving after a relationship ends. Your emotions will be on edge for a little while, but that feeling of strength will return.

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olivia-cecile offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

i think u just need to go out with your friends and flirt with other guys and do a bunch of stuff u couldnt do when u were in a relationship. it’ll make u appreciate being single

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hopelikefire4 offline Verified User (9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (34 minutes after post)

I feel like before I find that guy who will both love me and give me independence I should probably learn how to be really independent, on my own, or I won’t be able to stand up for myself in the relationship. But I already want another relationship, and maybe it’s natural to not want to be alone but I wish I could learn to just be happy with my own company.

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2 months, 2 weeks ago (3 weeks, 3 days after post)

But you’re just a kid… Relationships are for ancient fellows.

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hopelikefire4 offline Verified User (9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (3 weeks, 3 days after post)

Why should relationships be limited to ancient fellows?

Besides I become a legal adult in less than two months. Am I allowed to have a relationship then? xP

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