Money help: I am 46 years old and have been married for 23 years to a great

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I am 46 years old and have been married for 23 years

to a great woman,We raised 3 boys that became good men.Over the years i have had many injuries that have taken their toll on me,Spinal fusion and 2 other spine surgeries,7 right knee and 2 right shoulder surgeries,Born with scoliosis had scarlett fever and mumps at the same time .My wife has glaucoma,psudo-tumor cyribri.It is a false tumor in the brain .The pressure builds up around the brain and around the optic nerve causeing headachs and blindness.I have reinjured my back and cant work,I have filed for disability and was turned down 3 times.Ive looked for help everywhere from medical help to food stamps ,It seems that everywhere i turn is a dead end .I have helped peolple i know and ones i dont know,When i look for help they arnt anywhere to be found.I am not lazy nor am i looking for a hand out.This is supposed to be the land that says give us your weak tiredand oppresed and so on.America is supposed to have all this copassion and help for those that are having a hard time .it isn,t true I have worked all my life paid my taxes and tried to do what is right .I have told the truth even when it ment i would put myself in harms way.SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT TO DO WHEN DOING THE RIGHT THING IS KILLING ME AND MY WIFE.

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I hear your frustration and I do know how you feel.My husband and I are in the same boat, different illnesses,but both of us are sick and unable to work.No medical insurance,no money,no diagnosis no treatment,no one who will listen.We have been doing this for years, we were lucky one of us was sick at a time,but when we both had problems at the same time,it is a nightmare,we were just trying to stay alive and trying to help each other and that’s pretty much all we had was each other.Just going to doctor appts.and filling out form after form, and repeating yourself over and over hoping this one will listen and have some answers, it’s like living in the twilight zone.And then you feel like they don’t care because your broke and they are just stalling hoping you will die. Lots of emotions it’s a crazy life.I don’t have any answers for you,then why am i writting? I guess I just wanted you to know you are not alone.I weighed 87lbs and hadn’t had any food for over a year I was wasting away and still nothing was done, they just sent me home to die.Finally I needed emergency surgery that saved my life{but it was life or death before i could get help}and because it took so long to diagnose me I will have problems until i die.I don’t know which is worse being the sick one or taking care of someone sick,and feeling so helpless,it’s a terrible thing to see your spouse in so much pain and you can’t change things for them.But we know how the other one feels,exactly. So we have each other and we often wonder how we manage to live through all of this.People don’t want to be around you, it scares them,and they can’t begin to understand anyway.We’ve been together for 35 years and we are closer now then ever.I hate we have to go through all of this but I am so grateful we have each other.And yes we were always the first ones in line to help others,in any and all ways that we could,we feel bad because we’re not able to help like we use too.But remember we give to give,not to get. I know you felt better just getting things of your chest, it really does help.We’ll be thinking of you,best of luck.just hold on to each other{and I personally don’t think were in this alone,i’m not religious but i do beleive}.

I hear your frustration and I do know how you feel.My husband and I are in the same boat, different illnesses,but both of us are sick and unable to work.No medical insurance,no money,no diagnosis no treatment,no one who will listen.We have been doing this for years, we were lucky one of us was sick at a time,but when we both had problems at the same time,it is a nightmare,we were just trying to stay alive and trying to help each other and that's pretty much all we had was each other.Just going to doctor appts.and filling out form after form, and repeating yourself over and over hoping this one will listen and have some answers, it's like living in the twilight zone.And then you feel like they don't care because your broke and they are just stalling hoping you will die. Lots of emotions it's a crazy life.I don't have any answers for you,then why am i writting? I guess I just wanted you to know you are not alone.I weighed 87lbs and hadn't had any food for over a year I was wasting away and still nothing was done, they just sent me home to die.Finally I needed emergency surgery that saved my life{but it was life or death before i could get help}and because it took so long to diagnose me I will have problems until i die.I don't know which is worse being the sick one or taking care of someone sick,and feeling so helpless,it's a terrible thing to see your spouse in so much pain and you can't change things for them.But we know how the other one feels,exactly. So we have each other and we often wonder how we manage to live through all of this.People don't want to be around you, it scares them,and they can't begin to understand anyway.We've been together for 35 years and we are closer now then ever.I hate we have to go through all of this but I am so grateful we have each other.And yes we were always the first ones in line to help others,in any and all ways that we could,we feel bad because we're not able to help like we use too.But remember we give to give,not to get. I know you felt better just getting things of your chest, it really does help.We'll be thinking of you,best of luck.just hold on to each other{and I personally don't think were in this alone,i'm not religious but i do beleive}.

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