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In 2002, I graduated highschool.

For me, Highschool was a really tough experience because I was more or less isolated all of the time. I suffered a nervous breakdown in 2000, which I don’t believe I ever recovered from.

In the years sense highschool, things were never really that great either. Despite getting into Academy of Art University in 2003, my father wouldn’t let me go to college. but instead kept me at home going to a cheap Jr. College. In 2005, after gaining an amazing 28 units from the school, I dropped out and tried to get a job. Father wouldn’t let me, refusing to take me to the job interview on time. So I went back to school. This time, I completed an Associates degree in 2007. Again, my father stood in the way of me getting into a 4 year school. In 2008, he stole $15,000 in financial aid money and now wants me to pay it back by getting a job in fast food or something. It is near the end of 2009, the end of this decade, and I am almost 26 years old. I feel like my best years(the 18 - 24 years) have been wasted chasing my father’s dreams, and not my own. I missed out on a lot and sacrificed plenty. In short, I feel like I’m 75 years old and I have no prospects.

The thing is, my father is batshit insane. He has a plan. A plan that would put any plan from Fred Flinstone to shame. He wants to exploit me. He wants to start a “business” with no employees, no offices, just me in front of a computer doing IT work. He gets all the money while I waste my life making him more money. Because of his idiocy(He drinks rubbing alcohol) and my mother’s general retardation, I missed out on my college age simply because they wanted free money. I just don’t know what to do. I have no job, money, or friends, things I think I would have by now had they just BACKED OFF.

Any advice?

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bingersfeldenheime #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

you should write a book about this
i would read that dude
AND you would make money for it if u published it

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auratu 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

I don’t follow you, how would that help?

bingersfeldenheime #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

i always find things to be mentally soothing when i take time to write it all down

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littlenick 139 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

How did your father “steal” $15,000 in financial aid money? You mean to say your father got all this money from the state or the governement and did not give you any morney? And what has stopped you from leaving home? Are you disabled? Have your parents tied you to a basement on a generator thereby stopping you from leaving? And how does your father plan on making money with you behind a computer if you’re the brains of the outfit? He’s making you do this against your will with a gun pointed at your head?

And why is everything your parents’ fault? Your 26 years old! You’re an adult!!

Parents are in no way obligated to send you to college. Sometimes when parents are unable or unwilling to do that for you, you can declare your independence and emancipate yourself from your parents and start applying for financial aid for yourself so they give it directly to you.

I think it’s more excuses than anything else. Why are you trying to blame other people for your own mistakes and false steps.

I just don’t see it. I’m sorry.

You’re 26 years old! Leave home and be on your own!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

can you consider going away?

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littlenick 139 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

I think you feel entitlement for your parents to pay for your college. And that is the main problem. Parents are in now way obligated to take care of you or do anything else for you once you finish high school.

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auratu 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

You don’t understand. They actively went out of their way to keep me here for their stupid plan. I TRIED setting out on my own, but they won’t let me. And yes, he stole the financial aid money. He misled me, saying he’d take care of it for me by putting it in a bank account. Within weeks, it was completely spent on TVs, computers and desks for the rest of the family while I went to school in tattered rags.

I do realize that I made quite a lot of mistakes on my own.(Not taking my medication and embarassing myself at school by acting like an idiot, not finding a job more actively, ect) But they did actively go out of their way to keep me from going into a field that they didn’t like(Saying that I didn’t have options, when his plan is for me to literally be a slave)

I can’t just up and leave with no money, job or friends, that would be crazy, where would I live? Under a bridge?

littlenick 139 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

So you do have a disability and they took advantage of it! Those are some crappy parents you have! They should be ashamed of themselves. Wow!

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auratu 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

Well derp I guess you’re right.

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