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So why are you anticipating bad things into your future? Negativity and bad thoughts are not going to do you any good. You better start thinking of all the wonderful things you’re going to accomplish and all the wonderful people that you are going to meet. Change your attitude. Just like you put your depression out of your mind to graduate college, you should do the same now so you can make progress in your life and future. The only person who is stopping you now is you and you are already anticipating bad things. So why even try, right? Because your bright future and your wonderful destiny are calling for you. Don’t stop now.
littlenick wrote:
So why are you anticipating bad things into your future?
the lessons of history, my friend, the lessons of history… the longer i go without crashing the worse it ends up being when it finally happens. and after a year without a slip i feel like i’m walking a razor’s edge, and i have no confidence in my ability to keep my balance.
I know how you feel…But you will make new friends to go with your new start. Walk this path for awhile. It may be just what you need to put things to the past. If it should not work out you still have your friends and family to lean on. You must try or you will never find out. Good luck to you my friend :)
So why not try to build your confidence now so you can at least face your future and make your true destiny of greatness come alive?
thanks eddieee.
@littlenick: you don’t actually believe in “destiny”, do you? i believe it was heraclitus who said, a man’s character is his fate. and if that’s so, than my fate is not greatness.
I think we are the master of our destiny. We make our path in life and we build our own kingdoms. As corny as that sounds, I believe we all drive ourselves to greatness or mediocrity. As long as you’re alive and can keep on going, you should always strive for the best things in life and should always look for ways to overcome any obstacle that appears on your road of life, as big as it may be or as diminutive as it might be. You are what should drive you and you should never let outside influences deviate you from your goals. Negative thoughts and negative attitudes will always prevent you from going forward and making progress in life. Put them aside and only think positive.
And if you really believe that, you should also change your character and make it stronger and more assertive.
same thing. changing your character=taking control of your fate. and i agree with you. as long as i am alive, i do strive for greatness. the problem is, some times i don’t know if it’s worth it. i mean, like anything else it’s cost vs. benefit. i know the cost of living life well, but i am unfamiliar with the benefits. on good days i think, only one way to find out. but when i’m depressed i think, why bother when there’s no guarantee it’ll be worth it? in the words of queen: what the hell we fighting for? just surrender and it won’t hurt at all.
The thing is if we surrender, we become lackeys of all the crap that we’re trying to avoid, including the depression and misery that accompanies it. Do you know how pathetic we look when we let others take care of us because we don’t want to take control of our own care and well being?
you’re missing my point, littlenick. when you’re dead, there’s no misery, no one has to take care of you, and it doesn’t matter (at least to you) what people think of you anymore.
But then you give in to all that. Why die? That’s too easy. Why not make harder and maybe more adventurous and go on living?
What if…you are missed. What if…you can still see them hurt. What if…you still hurt. You owe it to yoursef to give it all and end on a happy note. At least to say you tried. Hang in there my friend.
belteshazzar293 wrote:
you’re missing my point, littlenick. when you’re dead, there’s no misery, no one has to take care of you, and it doesn’t matter (at least to you) what people think of you anymore.
littlenick wrote:
…That’s too easy. Why not make harder and maybe more adventurous and go on living?
wow, i don’t know if you’ve got me figured out or if you were just shooting in the dark.
but like i said, cost vs. benefit. what’s to say that live is worth the effort? we won’t know until it’s already behind us. we might wake up in a few decades and realize that our life ain’t worth ****, that all our years have left us with nothing. so what was it all for?
Eddieee wrote:
What if…you are missed. What if…you can still see them hurt. What if…you still hurt. You owe it to yoursef to give it all and end on a happy note. At least to say you tried. Hang in there my friend.
belteshazzar293 wrote:
you’re missing my point, littlenick. when you’re dead, there’s no misery, no one has to take care of you, and it doesn’t matter (at least to you) what people think of you anymore.
what if i’m missed? well, to be cold, it won’t matter to me anymore. and i believe firmly that man does not have an immortal soul, so i’m entirely unconcerned about seeing them hurt or hurting myself.
and compare these epitaphs:
here lies belteshazzar293. he gave it his all and still failed.
or
here lies belteshazzar293. at least he knew how to fold a losing hand.
and i can almost hear littlenick shaking his head in disgust, and saying “if you’re so convinced you’re going to fail, of course you will.” i know. i don’t feel like this right now, but this is how it goes when i’m in the grip of depression.
I think you want to argue existentialism. However, I don’t believe in giving up at all. I came close to giving up and giving in a few years ago. But, even with the crappy life that I have now and the unbearable situation that I find myself in now, I would never dream of giving up all together. Fight. And that I will do.
and now, counterpoint:
Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
thanks for your indulgence, gentlemen. i should be okay for another few months.
I don’t know what else to tell you mate other than good luck.
thanks, littlenick. peace.
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dont lose before go to war. you need a hero that would save you just in time and some rest, matthew 11:28. we all need bail out sometimes.
If you are to die unhappy you become a ghost. Lonely and confused. Go and meet someone who can brighten up your mind. You need someone who fills your heart with their smile. You need someone to love and you’ll move on. Find someone who understands the truth.
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