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mm, i see why this is difficult for you hun :/

think you better to pay your last respects to your gran
youll only kick yourself if you dont
also im sure your gran will die happy knowing her granson was there, when he was needed the most :)

I think you should go say goodbye to your grandma and be there for your family. She’ll only die once.

You have so many opportunities to get a job, and start a life and everything, but this is your only chance to say goodbye to your granny. This is not the kind of thing you want to regret.

It’s alright that you’re having trouble with this choice, because you had everything all planned out, but I think you know what the right choice is, you’re just kind of afraid of making it.

I think you should go with what you feel is the best thing for you and what will rest easiest with you in the long term.

You can handle this. You can make it work out.

Can’t you find somewhere to live online while you visit in the Lake District.

how about looking into staying at a hotel while finding an apartment? just a temporary set-up for you.

What do you think your granny will want you to do?

Dorian wrote:
I’ve been looking online but I want to actually view the place before I sign up for anything. That’s what I was going to be doing this weekend.

You could always get something on a short-term lease (sight unseen) or a room mate situation for the first while until you look around for the perfect spot.

did you talk to your family about this?

I think you need to reach out to your family. Maybe you could ask them for a loan until you are able to settle in like you planned to do this weekend?

I really do think you should go. My grandma died and it made all the difference for my mom that I was there.

You can figure a way to make this work.

Do you have a large family?

I think you are talking yourself out of it and I am not going to convince you otherwise. I made a similar call three years ago and I don’t have any regrets. It’s what you want to do and what you can live with.

Can’t you ask your family for advice?

I think that’s the best way to go, because you don’t want to disappoint them or whatever with your decision. And they probably understand your family relationships better than anyone here. So that’s my advice, even if it’s a bit sucky, to just wait it out until they return.

Don’t take this as criticism in any way, because it isn’t. But family should come first in life- no matter what else you have going on. They’ve always been there for you, and even though its not a good idea to drop everything where you are now, you may never see your gran again. So, if I were you, I’d be packing for my week long trip and worry about what I’m going to do with money later. BUT that is me and what I’D do, hopefully it helps you some. BEST of luck, and well wishes go out to your family in this difficult time.

i myself prefer 2 be with my grand till last second;what ever is going 2 happen later is not important compare 2 my gran’s death…even if i have 2 sleep in streets…last seconds of my grand is more precious than whole of my life…u know i really lovemy grands…i think even if u don’t u have 2 pay ur respect…she dies once
p.s:i’m really sorry;u r losing ur grandma…please accept my deepest condolences…although u said u r losing her,i’ll pray 4 her health…hope 2 get better… :”-[

That’s okay, I didn’t really expect you to agree, I just thought I’d throw my thoughts out there. =) Either way, I hope you make the right decision FOR YOU, regardless of what your family says…

It can be difficult as all situations are different and not everyone has a close family unit. I don’t think your gran is going to be alone, far from it.

Well going there. Depends totally how your interaction is with your family. How they treated you when you grew up. if your some cast off including your grandma. Then I would say don’t go. And focus on yourself. As they won’t help you in anyway let alone a loan… You can pay your respects later. I’m also not a funeral type tbh. But if you have a good connection with a certain family member then go for that person and be a support.

I lost 7 family members across the globe in 1.5 Years I wasn’t able to attend them because I was fixing up to send Family members over or doing something in the background for the family. (there is only so much you can do with limited money and it came out of mine!) Of all my passed away family members, I was only able to attend to one funeral.

but I had peace with it. And it worked for me. The Question is regardless of your choice can you live with it?

Hey Droian, I can tell you are smart and talented. I know you can find a way to do both - be with your family and be ready for school.

All the best!