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Is it normal to feel worthless all the time?

I always feel that what ever I do isn’t good enough and that’s the reason that I am ignored all the time. I wouldn’t mind if I was a terrible person but, I’m hind hearted, warm, helpful, considerate and always try my best.

Maybe it’s because I’m old!

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KNElliotso offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Nope, not old. Maybe you need to get a different hobby….Get out and see soem new folks….

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

That’s easier said than done. I can’t exactly walk up to a stranger and just say hello, they’ll probably think I’m weird.

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Lonelysoul offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

NO Have you felt that way all your life?

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Why do you feel worthless dave?

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Yes! Partly due to my hands shaking, due to epilepsy.

I have hobbies, but they all bore me and even though I try new ones, they just don’t do anything for me.

I go out and help others but, it still doesn’t feel enough.

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

we all get depressed sometimes!! it does depend how old you are though; elderly ppl are more prone to depression, as teens are.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

how old r u dave?

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

I’m 37 and have suffered depression for twenty years. The doctor just wants to talk about it.

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

maybe that’s the answer.

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

The problem is what to do to get out of it. I run each day and do exercise, create music when I can, poems, run a web site, look after my dad and visit friends.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

37 isn’t old.

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

I remember when I was 21, my mother said that if I wasn’t too careful I would be alone and old. Perhaps that has clouded my judgement. :)

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

dave, How can you say that you feel worthless all the time and then say that your kind hearted,unselfish,kind and all that good stuff you said about yourself?wich one do you beleive? That your worthless or your great,It sounds to me like you have a infeareority complex,Mosy people like to be told that they are doing a good job or that they are smart,handsome or something nice about themselves.Most of the people i know dont like me but it,s becouse i dont beat around the bush and if they ask me what i think i tell them.You are the one that needs to think good of yourself not others,Other people will lie to you just to keep from hurting your feelings.

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Lonelysoul offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

Oh Dave, that is a long time. I’m 31 and I suffer from depression since I was 7 years old. The feeling of worthless is something deals with everyday. I am still learning how to control my mind self destructive ideas. Do you have someone in your life helping you deal with this feeling?

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Nope. The only person that did he me isn’t with us any more. It comes and goes but it leaves a cold empty feeling inside. I get the feeling that there something I should be doing but I don’t know what it is.

That probably make no sense at all.

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Lonelysoul offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

It does make sense Dave. You mentioned you visit friends, don’t you trust any of them with your feelings? Do you have problems with attachment /closeness?

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

It is difficult to express myself, when most of them are gossip mongers and can’t keep their mouths shut.

I think I get that from my dad, who is even worse at showing emotions than I am.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

I was thinking of trying tai chi (probably spelt wrong). It’s meant to calm the nerves and lift the spirits. I’m starting college next month. I want to become a teacher. Hopefully it’s not too late.

It will take 5 to 6 years but I think it will be worth it. :)

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Lonelysoul offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (45 minutes after post)

I think you need to find out what exactly you don’t like about yourself. The low self esteem you have about yourself is being caused by some distorted belief you have about yourself. For me my low self esteem when young was because I was the only girl in my school that had curly hair/vegetarian and kind of Jewish. I was the “different” girl, kids used to laugh at me all the time. I hated all that. When I was 16 I felt in love with someone that betrayed me, exposing our intimate moments to all my church members. After that I was marked as the “unclean, easy” girl in church. Again my self esteem went downhill, but I needed to learn what was causing my feeling of worthless in order to find help. I am here taking one day at time. I want to believe I am worth and I have something good to offer to this world. You can too Dave, just don’t give up. If you don’t have that positive voice around let me know and I can be there for you :-)

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (50 minutes after post)

I won’t give up, I just want to be special I guess. Who doesn’t! I’m glad you’re doing so well and you seemed to be going through your own hardships.

I guess that I always thought that girls and now women deserve better than I had to offer, even though I knew it is a lie.

I have been trying to think positive thoughts only but sometimes I fall into bad habits.

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Lonelysoul offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

I understand and You are Special Dave !!!

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

You have lifted my spirits and I thank you.

Now, if I could only find more people as decent as you, I would feel a lot better more often. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone. :)

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Lonelysoul offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

Glad to hear Dave. We got to find a way to keep your spirits up for at least 24hrs. 24hrs remembering how great person you are. 24hrs, 24hrs, can you try?

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

Dave. You are not alone!!!

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

I am always prepared to try. I we don’t try, we will never know. :)

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

thanks everyone. :)

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queesly4rea offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

Hey dave…i want u to always see urself as the best..never ever do otherwise cos there is a reason 4 u to be u…be cool.

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Lonelysoul offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

perfect so in 24hrs from now can you please let me know the status? :-)

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

OK

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dave1971199 offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

I remember my mother told me before she died, that she didn’t know why god gave her a son but, she knew why when she wasn’t well.

I looked after her everyday and that was the proudest time I have ever felt. It’s just a shame that we have to die.

The strange thing is that I think about her everyday and always try my best not to sully her good name.

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