Relationships help: I’m 16.

chickita40193

I’m 16.

School is going to start on Monday and I will be a junior. My parents are getting divorced. I know its common and all that, but it sucks. I wasn’t too shocked, but I still cried. They haven’t gotten along really good for a long time. I’m so mad and sad and depressed and a billion other emotions. I was thinking about seeing a therapist, but money is tight now, and will be tighter after the divorce goes through and I don’t want to cause financial trouble for either of my parents. I am moving with my mom and my 13 year old sister. We live in a small town and we are just moving about half a mile away(into the uptown area) so that me and my sister can still see my dad whenever we want to. I have an 18 year old brother, but hes not really affected too much by it. He’s staying with my dad. I’m just so pissed off all the time. I want to be less angry, but I’m not sure how. This whole situation is ********. If anyone has any idea as to how to be less angry and over-emotional all the time, the advice would be great.

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gurlygirl9 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

im 17 and my parents just got divorsed a few months back. except my dad moved out 2 years ago. but to help me be less emotional i wrote and talked to some of my close friends it didnt help 100%. i dont think anything but time every will but if you havent tried that, it could help a little

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chickita40193 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

Yeah, I’ve written and talked to my bff. It just doesn’t seem to work as good as I would have hoped. Thanks for the advice.

gurlygirl9 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (21 minutes after post)

no prob. i really do hope you find something to help

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Atlanta, GA, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (24 minutes after post)

Punch your pillow.
write letters to both your mom and dad telling them how you feel about it…then rip them up and throw them away/burn them.
go outside and just scream as loud as you can.

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roenmcgloan 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

Take advantage of school starting. Guidance counselors will talk to you for free. Take a writing class or an art class or something that will encourage you to express yourself. Talk to your sister. Helping her will help you. Look into what your health insurance covers. Therapy copays can be really reasonable, and well worth it.

Yeah, it’s common, but your feelings are ALWAYS important. This is the first time YOU are going through this, and that’s major and painful and worthy of attention and expression.

Help me with: So in the words of Sigmund Freud…sorta:

chickita40193 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (31 minutes after post)

I didn’t really want to talk to the counselor because I don’t want to talk to someone I know but aren’t close to. And I can’t even talk to my sister because she is so angry about anything and everything that it’s next to impossible. I will look into insurance stuff. Thanks for the advice everyone.

slickster_9 2 #
Tacoma, WA, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 52 minutes after post)

i know how you are feeling.. my parents got divoreced about two years ago when i was only 15.. it was hard to see my dad leave because i idolize him so much.. and most of the time talking with friends even your “bff” doesnt help ease the pain.. the night my parents told us they were splitting up.. i couldnt even cry… i went sleepless for days on end thinking of why, how could this happen.. i thought everything out untill i had such a bad headache i couldnt remember what day it was… but in reality you have to realize that sometimes people lose touch of what they saw in each other when they first fell in love… my parents were much like yours for a long time.. they didnt really talk.. not fight but just didnt show any sort of affection towards one another… but you just have to realize that even though your parents are split up now.. they still love you and they are there for you.. its not your fault.. there really wasnt anything that “helped” me deal.. but i will say one thing.. dont let this effect your future relationships or effect your thoughts about love.. love is a beautiful thing :) it truly is.. but my advice.. do what ever makes you happy and keeps your mind off of it.. its going to be hard until you can accept it.. things happen chiquita.. but you cant dwell on the past and let it keep you from living your life.. sorry for the long reply :P

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