Relationships help: Guys, is it normal for you to do this?

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Guys, is it normal for you to do this?

When a guy keeps looking at a girl from a distance, when he thinks she’s not aware, or when he leaves the vicinity she’s at. Yet. When she looks back to try and catch his eye, he quickly looks away. And he’s not known to be shy.. well. Sociable but not a typical quiet guy. This went on at various sch events during vacation. Like he would stand beside me in the lift and look at me. Be looking over at me whilst dancing beside but never say a word..or if i cross the room.

And when i walk up to him to have a face-to-face conversation, he is able to hold eye contact w/o looking away at all during the conversation. Ok, he did look away once or twice. And he seemed to be standing quite close to me. He has helped me out with things once or twice out of the blue, all without me asking, and yet.. he doesnt initiate a conversation when we are alone.

What is happening? This has been happening bet me and a guy for awhile now.

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Metal 4 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

He likes you and you know it. :D

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s.wood7 8 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

Oh i wanted to know if it’s a conversational thing to stare into someone’s eyes like that, cause im usually very awkward with eye contact and dont do it much.

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monkichirmo 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

he likes what you’re wearing; that’s it.

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slimmmerman 5 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (21 minutes after post)

He likes you but is intimidated by you or he really is shy. Try talking to him in a private situation when no-one else is around.

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Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (27 minutes after post)

monkichirmo wrote:
he likes what you’re wearing; that’s it.

dont talk as if i wear very low cut skimpy things. -.- im a very conservative dresser by modern standards. jeans/t-shirt combi in college.

monkichirmo 7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (30 minutes after post)

if that’s all he gets then idk, lol. if you/he’s old enough to be in college and he still can’t tell you he likes you then maybe he has bigger issues than you think.

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Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (36 minutes after post)

Haha. ive met a number of guys who have been interested and never told me to my face. it could be due to 1000 reasons, being gay is one of them. but i dont think i attract gays 100% of the time. being in college doesnt mean a guy suddenly starts acting like an alpha male :)

rabbits 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (57 minutes after post)

He probably likes you but he’s probably just bad at starting conversations, perfectly possible for perfectly sociable types. Ask him out.

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name with no face 3 #
Warminster, PA, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 59 minutes after post)

yes, its absolutely normal. now you can go back to your life.

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slickster_9 2 #
Tacoma, WA, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 20 hours after post)

LOL i cant put it any clearer than metal did haha he likes you a lot… next time you two are together.. start the conversasion with him.. and just all of a sudden ask him “so when are you going to ask me out?” (assuming you like him as well) and that is a nice way to break the ice and not make it too awkward for either of you hehe.. i hope everything works out :)

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Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 22 hours after post)

hey thanks slickster_9 :) i just well i dont know.. prob insecurities on my part, but i think he has many other girls to choose from..haha. anyway i will try to help u with teh recurring dream thing cause i do face the same problems as well. =/

slickster_9 2 #
Tacoma, WA, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 8 hours after post)

thanks i appreciate it :)

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