friends help: Okay so im a rubbish person. - Help.com

Okay so im a rubbish person.

I have some new friends since i left school, and i love them, like they are great and they really make me laugh. AT my old school people looked down at me, just because for the first few years i was shy and wore glasses, then i got out o fmy shell and my alot of friends etc but there were always people who thought they were better than me.
I love hanging with my friends, but when im in my home town, im almost embarressed to be with them. And i dont know why. Im going to be honest and say one of my friends has a disabilty that makes him look different when he walks, and the other is very over weight and so they draw alot of attention. But when im out with them anyhere else i dont care, why should i? i am no better than them! i know that, but when im in my home area i feel that if i see the people from my old school they’ll think i hang around with losers just beause they have never met them and dont know how great they are. I still invite them to my home area, but i worry if im just a really horrible person because i think like this, i really wish i didnt and i know it makes me a bad person. Any advice?

This closed post was written 3 months, 2 weeks ago | V/U/S: 124, 3, 2 | Edit Post | Report Post

Help, friends, Problem (How Tags Affect Reciprocity)

Brinks1 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Understand, you’re not embarrassed by your friends. You’re afraid of the crap you’ll have to deal with because of the other people at your school. It’s the assholes who judge you and make you feel worse about yourself that are causing you to feel as if you should be guilty for not wanting to be ridiculed for being with people you are friends with. You are NOT a bad person for not wanting to be judged for something that doesn’t concern anyone else anyway. You are a good friend. One day you’ll stop caring what people think, but that is very hard to achieve. For now, keep comfort in the fact that you’re friendship with your buddies is genuine and not conditioned by what people around think about it.
Best of luck
-One good guy to another

Understand, you're not embarrassed by your friends. You're afraid of the crap you'll have to deal with because of the other people at your school. It's the assholes who judge you and make you feel worse about yourself that are causing you to feel as if you should be guilty for not wanting to be ridiculed for being with people you are friends with. You are NOT a bad person for not wanting to be judged for something that doesn't concern anyone else anyway. You are a good friend. One day you'll stop caring what people think, but that is very hard to achieve. For now, keep comfort in the fact that you're friendship with your buddies is genuine and not conditioned by what people around think about it. Best of luck -One good guy to another

Anonymous #
3 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

:) hey thanks alot! i really appreciate that! I guess so but i feel like i think im better than them co sim embaressed to be with them, but its just because of what people will think of me, cos they wont have the time or take the time or even care how great they are. if anything they should be embarssed to b ewith me theyd never this way!
i hope i get to the point where i dont care, cos i shouldnt have to,
thanks alot for ur advice it really helped :)

:) hey thanks alot! i really appreciate that! I guess so but i feel like i think im better than them co sim embaressed to be with them, but its just because of what people will think of me, cos they wont have the time or take the time or even care how great they are. if anything they should be embarssed to b ewith me theyd never this way! i hope i get to the point where i dont care, cos i shouldnt have to, thanks alot for ur advice it really helped :)

This post has been closed, no more replies. Thanks!

Seeing as this post is closed, no invites are allowed.