Relationships help: Why can’t girls just say no when they don’t want to go out with you?

gack46

Why can’t girls just say no when they don’t want to go out with you?

(instead of idk, maybe, etc)?

I asked this girl out recently who I actually thought liked me back, given all the back and forth flirting, but as soon as I asked if she wanted to go out, she shrugged her shoulders and said, “I don’t know, I have to think about it, can I get back to you?”

When does that actually mean she will get back to me? As guys, we can tell it means no I’m not interested. But why must girls dress it up and give it some sense of hope? When I was younger, it used to give me some encouragement but I ended up getting rejected further. I’ve learned from my mistakes.

I’m used to rejection and so should every guy so why can’t girls say something like, “No thanks, but I’m flattered.” Or “I’m seeing someone else.” or something that gives a definite no.

I don’t understand girls and I probably never will.

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mikemcar 2 #
Redditch, Q4, GB | 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

because some girls feel bad about it and try to do it as gently and thay can but they dont relise there just makein it worce :(

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (32 minutes after post)

because women have no grater pleasur than hirting/ confusing us men, personally i think the only way to avoid this problem is to hire a pros****te coz lets face it, you pay money (les than what a proper partner would cosrtt you over a life time) you get what you want, they leave and youve not got hurt

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coffee.obses 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (54 minutes after post)

I once said maybe to a guy when he asked me out but that was because up until then I had thought he was gay! (someone had told me so for some reason)
I ended up going out with him because once I thought about it, I realised that it made sense since we got along so well and everything!
Other than that I’ve never said anything like that though… I’m very straight forward with my answers. But I don’t think its fair for you to assume women say things like that just to mess with your heads or to hurt you. Sometimes they just need to think about it. This doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t like you!

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(>'')>~~~Kyle 6 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

Tell me bout it bro. It’s frustrating as heck….just hurts us guys’ feelings more when they try to avoid it/sugar coat it.

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slickster_9 2 #
Tacoma, WA, US | 3 months ago (1 day, 9 hours after post)

i dont know why either man i share your confusion.. the other day my girlfriend asked me how to let a guy down and not be mean about it.. because she had been asked out a few times when she had been dancing.. i really wasnt happy that other guys were tryin to hit on my girlfriend or tryin to make a move.. but i didnt understand why she would have to be nice about it.. i mean shes got me already.. im not saying to be a total a hole but why cant she just say “no i have a boyfriend” or “nope i got my man already” or something like “sorry im not interested i have someone already” i mean thats what we would say isnt it? if a girl asked me out id be like no sorry i have a girlfriend.. or i have the love of my life already.. its not THAT complicated lol.. there is a lot of ways to be blunt and not hurt someones feelings.. even though getting rejected always hurts the ego no matter what..

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(>'')>~~~Kyle 6 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

slickster_9 wrote:
i dont know why either man i share your confusion.. the other day my girlfriend asked me how to let a guy down and not be mean about it.. because she had been asked out a few times when she had been dancing.. i really wasnt happy that other guys were tryin to hit on my girlfriend or tryin to make a move.. but i didnt understand why she would have to be nice about it.. i mean shes got me already.. im not saying to be a total a hole but why cant she just say “no i have a boyfriend” or “nope i got my man already” or something like “sorry im not interested i have someone already” i mean thats what we would say isnt it? if a girl asked me out id be like no sorry i have a girlfriend.. or i have the love of my life already.. its not THAT complicated lol.. there is a lot of ways to be blunt and not hurt someones feelings.. even though getting rejected always hurts the ego no matter what..

Darn Right Man!!

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

They are a nightmare! Nearly all of them.

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An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 5 days ago (2 months, 2 weeks after post)

i just went through that crap today. i had originally asked if she wanted to go to the movies. she said yea. i was happy.

then. she said she couldnt… maybe next week.. and gave me her number. so i called it. and it was a disconnected number..

I want to tell that ***** off. but my mother taught me better.

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Anonymous #
1 week, 5 days ago (2 months, 3 weeks after post)

Ya know I’ve no idea. I automatically start thinkin of excuses rather than just giving a straight answer. I actually didnt realise how ridiculous that was until I read this.
Why do people feel the need to make things so complicated?

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