Its the anniversary of my oldest sister’s death today? - Help.com

First off, I’d like to say im so sorry you lost your sister at such a young age

Maybe the memorial should be related to any hobbies she had?
Like gardening for example, plant her a beautiful flower patch (:

Or write something in memory to her, like a story or a poem xxxx

I am also sorry for ur loss. I could feel how much u all loved and cared about her.
She can understand whats going on with u n she loves you as it is. She would be happy if she sees u happy and mostly doing the things that u guys did together and made u guys smile. IF you did those things with a smile . I think she would be more that happy.
Like if u guys wenton a walk on sea face or had a perticular food together or many other things that would make u both guys remember those good old days.

Regards,
Trilok

First off, let me say I’m speaking as someone who lost a wife after a 17-year relationship (11 years of marriage).

It’s understandable you want to do “something”. But it isn’t necessary. If you don’t do something, it doesn’t mean you don’t care. It doesn’t mean any lack of respect.

The only thing that is important after losing a loved one is to help them live on through you by adopting all the best characteristics they had and practising them yourself to lift other people up.

This often happens. A mother who loses her husband takes on the best parts of her dead husband. I have done this to some extent with the things I loved about my wife.

Everything else… the things they leave behind, the grave or the ashes, the pictures, none of those mean anything. And I know how hard it is to deal with those things. It has taken me over two years to empty my house of my wife’s things.

Things are nothing. And memorials are really only helpful when they focus on what good the lost loved one brought to the world and how we all can take on those good characteristics ourselves.

Allow yourself to feel the denial, the anger, the regrets, the depression of your loss. It takes time. And you will feel them over and over again. But you will heal. And the way to healing is by accepting your feelings and spreading your late sister’s greatest gifts through your own life.