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me and my ex boyfriend of 7 months had a great relationship.

we had an instant connection and fell in love almost immediately. a month and a half ago, he told me he needs time and space because he doesn’t know what he wants. he told me he wants to be single so he can spend some time alone because he is unhappy. i was completely devestated. we didn’t talk for a few days, and then would talk once a week or so. he told me he didn’t want to date anyone else and it had nothing to do with that. after we had been broken up for two weeks, i got a call from his old friend saying he was holding hands with someone the other day and that he was sorry. i confronted my ex about this as soon as i found out, and basically just told him i deserved to know the truth. yes, i did sort of freak out. i then found out that this girl was his ex girlfriend who he would always talk about how bad their relationship and break up was. they didn’t talk at all after breaking up, and he even changed his phone number because of her. i don’t know how they ended up contacting eachother, it really doesn’t matter. however, i realize that he probably left me to be with her. i told him to stay out of my life and a few other not so nice things, and that i hope things work out with her. since then, we have not spoken or anything. i am really confused. sometimes i hate him and then sometimes i want to make things right so we can be friends. but the truth is, he doesn’t deserve that. after everything we had and everything he told me, i was lead to believe that we had a future together. i guess my question is, will he ever try contacting me? i know only time will tell , but forgetting him has been harder than i thought. i know i should not contact him, but he really was the most important person to me at one time or another, and i never really got closure because of how it ended. i have given up hope of him wanting to be back with me, but does anybody have any advice or has anyone been in a similar situation?

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Jennah Ranae offline Verified User (3 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

Ok before i got to the friend calling you thing, i assumed that he was breaking up because he was bored and that he wanted a change. Some men that are in a bad relationship break up and move to a good relationship, after that they want a little more excitement so break up and go back to the bad relaationship. Depending on the guy he will call you, most guys always miss the ex’s i was in a marriage for about 6 months sadly, and i was so excited to get away from him. then boom, one day he just missed me and called me. And things ended very badly for us. But now we are friend and everything is ok. So just be cool forget about him, and if you honestly want him back then do what ever girl does. :P Date one of his friends he’ll come running back, this always works for me. Don’t be mean, and dump the friend just tell him, upfront most men will go along with it, and actually help out. LOL. Good luck and thaw.

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innuyashi offline Verified User (3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (51 minutes after post)

it sucks when that sort of thing happened … it happened to me and my best friend… the circumstances are a bit different but she was the person who at the time meant the Whole world to me then out of no where she dropped me for this boy who she picked up at a party, we sorted things out every thing was fine for almost a year then she went to France and I was invisible again, bottom line is until you have buried the hatched so completely you forgot where you buried it dont even think about letting him back into your life and when your ready clear the air, and move on dont expect anything. but who knows in the future when you both have grown up a bit just maybe you’ll find each other once more.
God knows I still miss my best friend
And I’d still take a bullet for her any day
and Im still hoping that one day she’ll return my call, but untill that happens I try to move past that event and live my life one day at a time. Just let him know that when hes ready , and only if you want him, that it would be ok to give you a call. but dont let him use you as a rebound I’d take it verrrrry slow.

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