Love help: It’s been 4 yrs since I’ve been in love for the first time & I’ve never felt that feeling you get when you fall in love since. - Help.com



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It’s been 4 yrs since I’ve been in love for the first time & I’ve never felt that feeling you get when you fall in love since.

i fell in love 1 time when i was 15 with a guy who of course I fell head over heels for. He cheated on me of course but ever since then I don’t love him but I CAN’T FALL IN LOVE WITH ANYONE.

I have been loved and cared about truly by great guys since then. I had a picture perfect relationship with a guy who was my dream man as a child but I didn’t even fall in love with him, and after a year, I used the first excuse I could to break up with him because it was killing me that I didn’t love him but he loved me so. My last relationship has been a year and this man is great, fell in love with me the first night we met, went on a date the next night, things went great but I never fell in love with him even though he is perfect!?

I’ve never been attracted to someone, or felt butterflies or even felt my heart even so much as jump in my chest ever since I was fifteen..It’s been over 4 years…I don’t know what to do, anyone else have this? or know how to fix this? I do anything I can but I just can’t be in love..I’m afraid of being this way the rest of my life…SOMEONE SAY SOMETHING THAT MAKES SENSE.

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innuyashi offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (4 minutes after post)

you have trust issues, and love is never to be taken lightly, you just haven’t met the right somebody yet. if you that concerned see a counselor. and who knows maybe your taste in men have changed

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (9 minutes after post)

it’s not something you can fix.. your trust has been broken and your mind and heart won’t let you get close to anyone. I’m not a doctor or smart guy but just a guy who’s wife cheated on him in the first eights month’s of marriage with my best friend.To this day i can’t have an open honest relationship with either men or women.I don’t trust men because i think they’d screw over other friend as quickly as they can. I don’t trust women because I’m always thinking that they’re looking for something better. Welcome to my therapy class….I don’t doubt that one day soon you will feel again..all those feelings will come rushing back when in fact you have found the right guy.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (14 minutes after post)

any one who does that to you is not worth your time

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (54 minutes after post)

The right person will come along, who will be understanding and patient and you will see something in him that you will warm too. It’s just a matter of time and you beginning to trust people a little more.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (5 days, 2 hours after post)

honestly, i have trusted, i’ve known that nothing would go wrong. I just never had those feelings come rushing, I see everyone with those feelings and see them get crushed and i honestly envy them.

I wish I knew the feeling again of honestly truly caring. I’ve had two honestly great guys. I’ve crushed them both in the end with my leaving them and I know, its terrible, I hate it I just never found feelings with them even though there was a very strong attraction to them but no more than such…

I can trust anyone, and I do. Maybe I’m just dumb but I hope you are right Shaun, I’ve recently watched three marriages go down, its a terrible thing cheating, I just say “at least tell me you don’t want to be exclusive” but no one has done it since the first guy I was with.

4 years seems like a long time not to even have butterflies in my stomach from anyone ha ha but who knows..

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