Love help: I am seriously thinking in giving an end to my life. - Help.com

jesus

Move to Canada! :D

I’m really sorry that you’re going through such a hard time. I can say that I don’t think any man is worth dying over. Even if your life sucks, it can never get better if you end it. I’m sorry you feel you are alone. Instead of concentrating on how alone you are or how much help you need, seek out new friends or volunteer to help some one. I met one of my best friends when I helped her carry some boxes to her car. I’m sorry that I can’t be more help than this, but I really don’t think killing yourself is the answer.

please don’t do it. email me for more. i swear i can help. fickshonal at aim dot com

dear friend: yes we are broken; but hearts do mend and people do change and grow emotionally. I’m sorry for your loss. You don’t say how long it’s been since your love relationship ended–but there is a hard process called grief to walk through when that happens.
It feels like ‘death’; but it’s really not. You are stronger than you know. It is in this pain/tears/depression/anger that the new MAN in you will arise.
My own son took his own life at age twenty three. I can tell you suicide
is a final act. If what you say IS true–your family doesn’t love you, your friends are all gone–you won’t punish anyone but yourself by taking your own life. If they do love you and simply are reacting to something in you they don’t understand or their own woundedness–they will be left with grief and untold guilt which will take years for them to work through.
What you are feeling now ( the pain of your life) will be even worse for your family. You know, I learned a family is always in a process of growth and you can’t judge it at any given point.

Each person in your family is in a process of growth and change. Sounds like your growth is being accelerated right now–you said you live in a country where homosexuals are seen as monsters. I don’t believe that is true. I KNOW God loves you as much as He loves me–and that’s huge.

Please, I urge you not to ‘give up’ when the going gets tough. Move away; start over again. You are worth it, young fellow! You are of great value and infinite worth. I’m cheering you onward. Grief does come to an end and then joy returns–you will find new love and new purpose and you will be stronger for what you are overcoming now.

Get some counseling to help you through this tough time. Reach out for help. You are NOT alone. (you’ve also got lots of support from people here on Help.com).
Be blessed.

P.S. I look to hear from you. Please give me a shout.

i do not share your lifestyle chioce however death is not the answer. if you kill yourself you will not be thw onlyone who is effected. what about the people you would meet in the future? what about those wwho HAVE draen strehghh from you in the pas t? where ther is life ther is hope”

Regardless of how devastated you might feel, every broken relationship can be survived. All it takes is the will to do it. Of course it helps to have the perspective of surviving some hurtful loses first. If this is your first big heartbreak, just trust us when we assure that the pain will definitely lessen with time and you will find happiness elsewhere. I know it’s hard, but you just need to trust in that future. Stay in University. In the early stages it is important to distract yourself. Commit yourself to work - even if feels pointless. Make new friends by joining some club or activity group. Go exercise (the endorphins will help your mood). All these humble activities will be a great help in getting over love’s setbacks.

I know for a fact that suicide is not a solution, or at leats not the best. Sometimes it’s the only one we see, but doesnt mean it’s a good one.
My boyfriend tried to kill himself after his own sister’s suicide.
He went through a lot during his childhood, his father abandonned him, his mother and his sister and never came back, even when his daughter was diagnosed with leukaemia.He’s been alone all his life and his sister was his only support.When she died he thought he could never get over it and tried to kill himself. I convinced him to get help and I supported him through it. I know now for fact that whatever your situation, it’s always possible to get better. I’m not saying you’re not feeling hurt,sad or unhappy. I’m just saying it doesnt have to stay that way. You say you did therapy and took meds. It was a good initiative, you have to carry on in this direction, get help, and don’t be ashamed of needing help.
If you feel really this unhappy in this country, think about moving. Then you’ll be less likely to bump into this man who broke your heart, and you won’t stay in an environment in which you’ve felt so low. Get a new start, get a new life.
There’s been a time in my life when I felt moving was the only way I could feel better.And it worked. In a new place, I was far from all my troubles and it was easier for me to get better.
Don’t let depression mess up with you life.
Don’t let it be stronger than you are.
You have to fight, for the fight isnt over yet.
You can still win, you can still be happy again.
Life isn’t easy, it isnt meant to be.
Sometimes you have to stop and think. But you can always restart.

I truely hope you’ll make the right choice.
best of luck with all this

Lilly

Wherever anyone of you ever turn, remember this poem/quote (no, seriously, I now basically know it off by heart.)

“The good comes with the bad,
So smile when you’re sad,
Love what you’ve got,
And remember what you’ve had.
Always forgive but never forget,
Learn from your mistakes, but never regret.
People may change,
Things go wrong,
But just remember LIFE GOES ON!”

And there was another one that went something along the lines of, “If you’ve reached your worst, the only possibility is to get better!”

Anyway, take the choice in whatever you think is right. But I’m sure that many people value you. There WAS another quote: “To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.” Anyway, best of luck!