Love help: hey so me and my boyfriend have been over for a while to me. - Help.com



This post left anonymously

hey so me and my boyfriend have been over for a while to me.

i say to me because he still wants this relationship badly and i feel like it’s just not working. i don’t know how to break it off easily and it sucks because he said he’s given up everything which isn’t something i’ve asked him to do. he cried in my arms the other night at just the thought of us being over and i didn’t even shed a tear. i don’t know what to do. i care about him. i kinda am the only friend he has left which isn’t my fault but i just don’t know what to do.

This open post was written 3 months, 1 week ago | V/U/S: 110, 5, 4 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post


Reciprocity (0) Reciprocation Failure -- The poster has NOT helped anyone else yet!

Since writing this post Anonymous may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days.

Post Tags (3)

Relationships, breaking up, Love (How Tags Affect Reciprocity)

Replies (5)

Where were you?

Click and drag to move the map around. FAQ: How we place people on this map »
You can also watch events on Help.com as they happen
Mouse over the map for 2 seconds to see an expanded, interactive view

tuttifrutt offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (6 hours, 5 minutes after post)

hey, if your hearts not in it, why let it hold you back?

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
This account has been deactivated.
dorky offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (16 hours, 1 minute after post)

I understand that this must be really hard cause you care a lot about him, which is a good thing really! But on the other hand if the feeling is not there for you anymore you will hurt yourstelf and him as well by staying in this relationship cause it will only get harder to end it. I wish you luck and take care!

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: I have this crappy situation at home where my sister is always telling lies to my parents and is not working or doing anything in school.
rabbits offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (22 hours, 17 minutes after post)

Yeah, If I were you (and female) I’d ask myself if I might actually still love him (or her if I wasn’t female)- if there was any love in the first place.
If you do, reconsider about ending the relationship, otherwise, I kind of know how you feel coz I’ve had a similar situation myself recently. You just gotta make clear to him that you still wanna be friends and that you do still care about him, and that you’ll still be there for him, but the fact is that you don’t want to have that kind of relationship anymore.

Why is it that you want to break up? What’s the back story? It just helps advice be better suited to you.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: I can’t stop procrastinating!
Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 6 hours after post)

He’s told me he’s gonna get a job for the past 7 months and he hasn’t even looked. He has to be told to bathe. He’s 21 and still lives at home with Mom and Dad. I don’t know I just think maybe I need someone a little more grown up.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
rabbits offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 23 hours after post)

Then if you’re sure you want to break up, like I said, you just gotta make clear to him that you still wanna be friends and that you do still care about him, and that you’ll still be there for him, but the fact is that you don’t want to have that kind of relationship anymore.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: I can’t stop procrastinating!

Invite Others to Help

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.