Not diggin the hatred.

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Not diggin the hatred.

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost one year now.
All his friends think I’m stopping him from seeing them while he’s making the choice himself.
They did this to another couple within the group but those rumors stopped, everyone became friends.
But since I’m “too shy” for them they just keep hating me.
One of these people keeps treating me bad after he did something pretty bad to me.
After 9 months of knowing their talking behind my back about me I’m pretty sick of it.
I know I can’t stop him from seeing them because of this cause that would just proove their point.
It just hurts so much when he goes and hang out with the people that hate, people that have been doing their very best at making me feel miserable for doing absolutely nothing wrong.
I’m soo sick of them hating me, ignoring me when I do try to make things right. I just wish they would stop being so blind, I don’t get they think like this after me trying so hard to be a part of the group.
Sometimes I just wish my boyfriend would get other friends, you know? chose me above people who hate me.
I don’t know anymore …
I’m really tired of living like this.

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Dr.Awesome McCool 23 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

Talk to your boyfriend about it, tell him it upsets you and you want him to tell them its not cool.

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¿ThatKid? 1 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

I have talked to him, a lot.
He has talked to them, a lot.
It isn’t working:P

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zilverknight 18 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

I know where you’re coming from. The problem is you are two opposites of each other it seems.

I do agree your bf should fight for you above all else.
Talk to your bf about how you feel about it. If he is good as you say he is. He will listen and try to involve you more and fight for you.
If not, it’s up to you to decide if you want this to continue or not.

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¿ThatKid? 1 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

I always forget to mark the anonymous buttonXD
I suckXD

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Dr.Awesome McCool 23 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

¿ThatKid? wrote:
I have talked to him, a lot.
He has talked to them, a lot.
It isn’t working:P

Well then your not doing anything wrong, and his opinion on you clearly doesn’t matter and doesn’t influence your boyfriend. All he can do is to keep telling this guy that it isn’t cool and all you should be doing is ignoring the *******, getting on with your life and being happy with your man :)

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¿ThatKid? 1 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

The real problem is just that he can’t understand I don’t like him hanging out with people who hate me(one of them seksually assulted me).
Don’t think he’s wrong. he doesn’t want to hang out with that one person, but its just a fact that he comes with the whole friend package

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¿ThatKid? 1 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

I just seem to have a problem getting over stuff, forgiving, forgetting and moving on.
I don’t know what it is but I just can’t do that

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Dr.Awesome McCool 23 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

¿ThatKid? wrote:
The real problem is just that he can’t understand I don’t like him hanging out with people who hate me(one of them seksually assulted me).
Don’t think he’s wrong. he doesn’t want to hang out with that one person, but its just a fact that he comes with the whole friend package

Well so long as he doesn’t bring people your uncomfortable with home and he defends you if those comments come up when hes around I don’t see a great problem. But if its really getting to you maybe you should see a counselor and if your comfortable invite him along.

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Dr.Awesome McCool 23 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

¿ThatKid? wrote:
I just seem to have a problem getting over stuff, forgiving, forgetting and moving on.
I don’t know what it is but I just can’t do that

Have you talked to the person giving you the hassle about how it makes you feel? With your boyfriend present of course. Explain to him that he has to understand that your boy friend is in a relationship now and while he still has lots of time for his friends he also enjoys spending time with you.

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¿ThatKid? 1 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

We’ve even had a fight about that with those guys, but that didn’t make a bit of difference.

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Dr.Awesome McCool 23 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (47 minutes after post)

¿ThatKid? wrote:
We’ve even had a fight about that with those guys, but that didn’t make a bit of difference.

Live and let live, If it bothers you so much you can leave your boyfriend. But I think seeing a counselor would be a good step.

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Cell 7 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 10 minutes after post)

Well I’d tell him them or me.

If my guy laid eyes on someone who sexually assaulted me he’d kick their head in. My guy doesn’t let anyone talk crap about me - not even his own family.

He doesn’t really love you if he is acting like that. Best to let this one go if he’s not going to change his ways.

There is someone out there that will treat you like the treasure you are.

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zilverknight 18 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (23 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Cell wrote:
Well I’d tell him them or me.

If my guy laid eyes on someone who sexually assaulted me he’d kick their head in. My guy doesn’t let anyone talk crap about me - not even his own family.

He doesn’t really love you if he is acting like that. Best to let this one go if he’s not going to change his ways.

There is someone out there that will treat you like the treasure you are.

I agree with cell

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