It sounds like you are in the UK. I don’t know what the laws are there, but in the US, any teacher or other school official who hears about any kind of child abuse is required by law to report it to the police and other appropriate authorities. If that is the case in the UK, either your friend or you can talk to a teacher, report the abuse, and the teacher would take it from there. If reporting it to a teacher wouldn’t work, the abuse could be reported to a social agency. Sorry, don’t know what one in the UK. Here it would be the Department of Child and Family Services.
If you report the abuse, your friend might feel betrayed and the friendship might end, but stopping the abuse is more important than possibly ending the friendship.
hmmm, well, u seem awkward with this, so just picture this. What did people do to comfort you when u were feeling down. Do the same to him. Comfort him in any way that has comforted you. Wait, so u said u had to leave, as in move away? If not, then do creative stuff w/him. Drawing, writing, making music, anything creative like that to make him get his mind off of all of that negative stuff. And please listen to him. Whenever he says he neds someone to talk to, just tell him to tell u. Try to b positive around him, more negativity wont help.
i told him to tell an adult but like most people, he seems to be scared to do it. i dont fully understand because ive never been in that position.
i am in the uk.
and i would do more stuff with him, but its the holidays for two more weeks, so i cant really tell a teacher until then either, and he’s never in town for me to do stuff with him, like creative stuff. i could ask him though, theres no harm in trying.
thank you.
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Your-Little-Helper wrote:
i told him to tell an adult but like most people, he seems to be scared to do it. i dont fully understand because ive never been in that position.
i am in the uk.
and i would do more stuff with him, but its the holidays for two more weeks, so i cant really tell a teacher until then either, and he’s never in town for me to do stuff with him, like creative stuff. i could ask him though, theres no harm in trying.
thank you.
x
U can tell the police right? U can try it sine ur out of school and all.
you need to get him out of there, id recomend going down the cop shop (police) and telling them, failing that you need to go down to your libary nd ask for the social services number and get him to tell them all about it, or alternatively call childline and they can give advise, or one last option is for him to fight back and beat his dad nearly to a pulp
It can be very hard for someone who is abused to report the abuse, especially when it is a minor reporting a parent. Encourage him to tell someone, and if he doesn’t you may have to, for his sake. You are in a tough spot — good luck.
samsungfirsbusiness wrote:
or one last option is for him to fight back and beat his dad nearly to a pulp
I did that. I was 14 and was tired of my dad hitting me. One day he trapped me in the garage, and I fought back. I was 5′ tall and around 100 pounds; he was 5′10″ and over 200 pounds. I beat the crap of him. He never touched me again. He did threaten to hit me a couple years later, after I had grown a couple of inches and put on about 20 pounds. I just smiled at him.
migratingredtai wrote:
samsungfirsbusiness wrote:
or one last option is for him to fight back and beat his dad nearly to a pulp
I did that. I was 14 and was tired of my dad hitting me. One day he trapped me in the garage, and I fought back. I was 5′ tall and around 100 pounds; he was 5′10″ and over 200 pounds. I beat the crap of him. He never touched me again. He did threaten to hit me a couple years later, after I had grown a couple of inches and put on about 20 pounds. I just smiled at him.
see t works dont iti would have reinded him o last time tho
hmm.. i think i’ll just tell him next time i speak to him to tell someone, he wouldn’t fight back, i just know he wouldnt but i could recommend it. if he doesnt.. and i ring the social services, do i not need his address? or do i just need his name?
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Your-Little-Helper wrote:
hmm.. i think i’ll just tell him next time i speak to him to tell someone, he wouldn’t fight back, i just know he wouldnt but i could recommend it. if he doesnt.. and i ring the social services, do i not need his address? or do i just need his name?
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oo he would i mean if you help him he should be able to do just about anything, i mean show him our responses and let him decide what to do , at least youve gave him some possible solutions to his problem
Fighting back isn’t the best solution. I got away with it because my father is physically inept and I was enraged.
When calling Social Services, you would need at least the street he lives on or a telephone number.
Fighting back in a physical way is not the ideal method to helping his situation. It is hard for him to tell someone because that means getting the people he loves in trouble and it will disrupt his family.
The best thing you can do if he isn’t going to tell anyone, (ask him if he’s considered telling anyone- is for you to tell someone,) a person of authority, tell your parents… and ask them to help you get your friend help.
This isn’t easy and this is probably one of the hardest things your friend is going to have to endure, you are a good friend. I appreciate you asking for help… it isn’t easy for you either… but he told you and that speaks volumes. He wants help eventhough he isn’t sure how or in what form.
Right. I’ll ask him if he wants to tell someone. If he says no should i then tell him that i think he should? or should i tell him that i would? i cant just go behind his back really because he trusted e engough to tell me in te first place..
i think i might tell my parents if he says he doesnt want to tell anyone. i’ll post on here what he says, it will most likely be within 12 hours when i talk to him again.
sorry for all the questions, i just want to make sure im doing the right thing here, i’ve not really dealt with this sort of thing before.
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Your-Little-Helper wrote:
i cant just go behind his back really because he trusted e engough to tell me in te first place..
i think i might tell my parents if he says he doesnt want to tell anyone.
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The most important thing is getting the abuse to stop, and you may have to “go behind his back” to do that. Sometimes the best thing a friend can do will jeopardize the friendship, but it has to be done anyway. Telling your parents might be a good idea. They might at least have some suggestions.
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