I wish I could forcibly transform him into a decent human being.

hopelikefire4

I wish I could forcibly transform him into a decent human being.

I already know I can’t make him change. And I’ve tried reason and I’ve tried persuasion and he’s just not getting any of it. He’ll just keep going on as he always has, leaving a big path of destruction, hurting himself and countless others and never even knowing why. He claims to love but doesn’t know what love is. He’s dealing with forces he doesn’t understand, and I can’t seem to explain it to him. So the next time he meets a pretty, clever girl he’ll leave this one in the dust, and it will happen again and again. And there’s nothing I can do about that and it pisses me off because I’m one of those girls and I would never wish it on anyone else.

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Emma may 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

i feel for you. but one day something will happen to change him, whether its in 2 days, 2 years, or 20 years. something will teach him hes going about life all in the wrong way, and you gotta tell him if he doesnt figure that out now hes gonna regret it big time. although im sure u already have. sorry, im not much of a help

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Shakeybritches 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

Sounds like you two are having a tough go of it.

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littlenick 159 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

Next time, slap some sense into him. Don’t let him do that to you and don’t be there should he ever decide to come back to you. People don’t know a good thing that they have until they lose it and can never get it back. You’re too good for him.

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hopelikefire4 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

I sure hope so Emma may. and yes I have.

Just to make it clear, there’s no “us two”. By this girl I meant the one he’s currently dating…the one he left me for. Actually the one he cheated on me with, left me for without telling me about her, and then accidentally revealing her to me through facebook. -_-

Believe me, I wouldn’t have let him do it if I had known. And I’m trying to stay his friend at least and help him get on the right track, but if he EVER tries to come back to me I promise you I’ll spit in his face. I could never love him again, not knowing who he really is.

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Shakeybritches 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

hopelikefire4 wrote:
I sure hope so Emma may. and yes I have.

Just to make it clear, there’s no “us two”. By this girl I meant the one he’s currently dating…the one he left me for. Actually the one he cheated on me with, left me for without telling me about her, and then accidentally revealing her to me through facebook. -_-

Believe me, I wouldn’t have let him do it if I had known. And I’m trying to stay his friend at least and help him get on the right track, but if he EVER tries to come back to me I promise you I’ll spit in his face. I could never love him again, not knowing who he really is.

Sounds to me as though you haven’t been able to totally let go yet.

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hopelikefire4 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

Mmm, let go of what exactly? You might be onto something but I’m not sure. What am I supposed to let go of?

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Shakeybritches 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (24 minutes after post)

hopelikefire4 wrote:
Mmm, let go of what exactly? You might be onto something but I’m not sure. What am I supposed to let go of?

Maybe feelings you have had for him.

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Shakeybritches 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (27 minutes after post)

Sometimes when we have been wronged, we can feel as though there is no suitable closure for us. But, I think you are ahead in that you see his need, but do not overlook yours. If you feel like you may still have anger towards him…….. try to release it as well as any negative ties to him. I hope this make sense.

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hopelikefire4 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (33 minutes after post)

I still do get angry about it at times. But it hasn’t been very long since this happened (maybe two weeks? I’m not sure) and I think I’m on my way. It seems like a fine line sometimes because I don’t want to just forget this and pretend he never did it but I don’t want to hold grudges or be bitter for the rest of my life…

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Shakeybritches 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (41 minutes after post)

It is understandable to be angry. For a time. I think you have to decide when you would like to get on with YOUR life. The hurt you feel and the negativity will only cause you more anguish until you have made up your mind to let it go. That doesn’t mean you should forget, but do not let your thoughts hover on it. You deserve to be happy, so let it go if you can and you will find much more happiness in your thoughts.

You can see his problems, don’t let his problems continue to hurt you. :)

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