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Sounds like a rough time.

its awful… i cant trust them at all.

Anxiety leads you to feel overwhelmed which makes you passive which turns you into a victim which leads you to depression. That’s how it works.

The way to escape depression is to be active. You make your goals and you pursue tem, however small. You make small tiny steps of progress every day. You make commitments to people and yourself and motivation will come to you to make them happen.

As long as you blame work and colleagues for your suffering you are ignoring the true problem, which is you didn’t have the coping skills you needed to deal with the anxiety at your job. This is something you can change. You can develop those coping skills very easily.

I’ve been through it all myself. I’ve lost a career, a wife, and more. And yet I have learned coping skills to control my anxiety and now I don’t sink into depression.

The answers are simple: action and commitments.

Get to it.

Anonymous wrote:
its awful… i cant trust them at all.

Who can’t you trust and why?

linuxya wrote:
Anxiety leads you to feel overwhelmed which makes you passive which turns you into a victim which leads you to depression. That’s how it works.

The way to escape depression is to be active. You make your goals and you pursue tem, however small. You make small tiny steps of progress every day. You make commitments to people and yourself and motivation will come to you to make them happen.

As long as you blame work and colleagues for your suffering you are ignoring the true problem, which is you didn’t have the coping skills you needed to deal with the anxiety at your job. This is something you can change. You can develop those coping skills very easily.

I’ve been through it all myself. I’ve lost a career, a wife, and more. And yet I have learned coping skills to control my anxiety and now I don’t sink into depression.

The answers are simple: action and commitments.

Get to it.

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3 Wowza… I’m deeply sorry for your loss, Linuxya. & Anon- I’m extemely sorry for the bad news about the cancer. But Linuxya has a really good tip…
THANKS LINUXYA! :D I’ll remember this tip when I get caught up.

Take time to relax and have a vacation. Maybe it’s just a stress. I’m sure you’re a workaholic type of person, you may forget sometimes to take some rest because of your work.

ihave left my job and a holiday is out the question due to funding… i cant trust my meantal health support or myfamily as they are all in this together…

Anonymous wrote:
ihave left my job and a holiday is out the question due to funding… i cant trust my meantal health support or myfamily as they are all in this together…

That sounds pretty paranoid. But like you have control of your actions, even if everyone was indeed against you. Only you can take action for yourself and fix your own situation.

Linuxya has some great advice. To keep moving, however small the steps may be, is the only way to get out of a hole or a dark cave. Do whatever little is possible at a given time. Best of luck.

i need to end this

Anonymous wrote:
i need to end this

You are afraid you can’t cope with life anymore.

Well you can. You need to understand that you are fighting the emotions in your own brain. Yeah, your circumstances suck. But they suck for lots of people who still find a new pathway to contentment.

You can do this. The key is to make a commitment to life and search for ways to make it better. You must break out of being a passive victim. People survive death of loved ones, they survive the holocaust, they survive all kinds of horrible things, and they make great contributions and garner the love and respect of others.

You’re in a hole now. But there’s a way out of it.