feelings help: So, the guy i was suposed to see, shut me down, yet again…wasnt going to drive the 41 minutes to come see me.

liltykes

So, the guy i was suposed to see, shut me down, yet again…

wasnt going to drive the 41 minutes to come see me. i stayed an extra day to see if it would work and it didnt! I sent him a email explaining what i felt of the situation and how he makes me feel and questions i wanted answerd face to face and all he could say was dont worry about it, i didnt know you held on for so long. wtf is that suposed to mean? dont worry? hmm

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (32 minutes after post)

He doesn’t want you if it is a relationship issue. He’s over you.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (47 minutes after post)

ohhh poopy..back to the drawning boards

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3 months, 1 week ago (48 minutes after post)

It means THE END. This guy is NOT into you. It’s time to MOVE ON to someone who is.

If that seems like hard advice to take because you’re really into this guy, consider the following: most guys don’t like drama. Depending on their level of maturity, they don’t want to hear about your feelings when they’ve done something obnoxious, they don’t want to be nagged, and they don’t want to have to do anything. In short, they don’t really want to do the work of a relationship. A guy who’s gained a bit of maturity or who REALLY likes you will put up with these things, but a guy who’s not that into you in the first place will be turned off even more emails explaining your feelings and demanding answers for his behavior.

If you back off completely, you have maybe a 1% chance of getting this guy back under the “people want what they can’t have” clause. If you continue to demand things from him, you have a 0% chance. But my question is: why would you want to be with someone who clearly doesn’t want to be with you. Even if you get him back, you’ve won a relationship where you can’t have needs and be open about your feelings.

It’s over. You will be the happiest if you accept that and move on.

liltykes 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (54 minutes after post)

thanks for that…i really needed to hear it! no, really i did! i see your point loud and clear and that it is over…

he cant man up to anything i say so i see where you say he isnt mature enough.

i have stoped communicating with him and feel i should take him off my phone and msn and probalby facebook just to show him that i wont stand for whats going on…the clause will probably not be in effect in my case cuz i just think he doesnt give a ****.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (55 minutes after post)

Take him off. You are right.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

i took him off my phone, msn, facebook BUT kept his blackberry messenger pin… thats the only thing i kept…bold move i know….

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

Good for you! You managed the problem.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 36 minutes after post)

yeh now its just resistin it that will be the big issue. i have to let go for my own sanity….

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

Totally. You deserve someone nicer anyway.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 48 minutes after post)

i do deserve someone nicer…i thought he was a good guy…guess not…piss me off…oh well buh bye…

thanks for your assistence

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 49 minutes after post)

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