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Being severely lonely and unhappy is the most degrading

thing, the worse it gets, the more it kills your self-esteem, and as your self esteem goes down, it fuels the problem, such a vicious cycle. I hate this.

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Catch 22.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

it is such a catch-22, I am there myself. however, there are things that can cheer you a bit, like taking care of an animal or learning to crochet (I’m trying) or even just playing basketball alone like I do at the gym. maybe finding a book club or some other friendly group of strangers would allow you to develop a little self-esteem back. hang in there!

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3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

That’s actually a pretty good suggestion, I was considering doing voluntary work as well, in the hope that it would help me to meet new people and boost my self-worth a little bit. I’m so hesitant about everything though. The problem with me is that it doesn’t come 100% naturally to me to be social and friendly and open with people, I tend to be quite shut off and find it difficult to let my guard down. People think I’m just being stuck up or rude, but it’s just because I’m scared of people getting to know me. I start at sixth form in a week, high school didn’t go very well for me, I managed to end up being labeled a kind of “problem child”, getting excluded and things, it really separated me from the rest of the people my age. I just feel I need to meet new people because I feel cripplingly alone but at the same time I’m scared to, I’m really worrying about how sixth form will go. I can’t sleep. This is my second night with no sleep.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

(I wrote this to another post, but could help you too, also the post before this describes a life similar to what I have gone through. Dont know if anyone will even read this considering it was a month ago)

I feel the same way as you do, I hate living everyday knowing that Ill have to be this person my entire life, it really leaves me no hope, my mom could have been a model,and she had an amazing life, I thought I would grow up to be like that, for some reason Im really small and skinny and have no personality, so I spent my life since middle school realizing that I would never be like her or just normal in general. Not only am I not amazing, im not even average. Not to mention that she died a couple years ago, I had a verbally abusive boyfriend for a couple years, and all around, I just hate my existence and my life. Luckily I was blessed with a couple friends who I can talk to so Im not completely alone. My best friend who I have known since I was about 2(we grew up next door to eachother) has recently found God. Now I dont know where you stand with religion, or anythign about you, but just set all judgements, perspectives and beliefs aside. I am a pretty intelligent person, and have always found religion to be hypocritcal and not something I wanted to be apart of simply because I dont appreciate close minded people. Im learning that being christian has nothign to do with appearences, being proper or close minded. VISIT THE WEBSITE http://mountainchristian.org/pages/pa…. If that doesnt work, just go to mountainchristian.org and click on “learn” then “sermon archive” I just started attending this church, they record their sermons and put them online. They are everything you wish a church was. Listen to the series called “Lost” also “Big C Little C”, “Christianity: Fact or Fiction” are very informative and interesting. I have no idea who you are or where you live, and this isnt like me, and Im only on here to get advice for a school project, but it doesnt matter. There is one God and he created all of us and he loves you more than you could ever imagine. If you listen to all these sermons and really understand what he is saying and what he means, I hope that it changes your life.

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