Love help: How bad can a relationship get, until there’s no fixing it? - Help.com

As long as you love eachother and still want to be with eachother then there’s hope. Go to relationship counseling and don’t think twice about it.

need more details than that. feel free to share, we wont judge you

I’ll judge you O.O

***lifts giant Judge Hammer***

we’re just having issues. we dont have any intiate time together anymore. we’re feeling more distant from eachother. im trying my best to fix it. and i know she is to. last night we were on the phone. lik we are every night. i thought she fell asleep. so i kept the phone on. but out of no where i get a text from her. she said “im sorry” and wheni asked what about. and she said “everything i put you through” my response was 4 texts long. which is 28 pages long in text. so yea she fell asleep before i finished. but i explained alot. shes at work right now. so im waiting for areply. ill be going to work soon to is what really sucks tho. im just afraid we wont be able to survive. this is where honestly we fall in the same category of many lovers. i dont know how ill live without her. i dont know how i did. and i dont want to. i feel like if i lose her. a huge part of my soul will just die. a huge chunk of my heart will just be torn out of by body. i dont know how i could take something like that. i hope this was enough to understand. i can say more if you want

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wow crap somuch for anonymous. philldot come and anonymous is me. soooo yea

Counseling is the way to go, trust me, most people think relationship counseling is for old married couples, it’s not, it’s for you. Google somewhere local to you right now, get the details, call them and ask what it entails, then ask your gf if she’s be willing to give it a shot.

If the relationship matters to you then do this now and waste no time.

lol i don the same thing sometimes,as for your situation: how did it get so bad? if your really trying to spend time together and talk things through then do your very best to save it, but sometimes you have to step back from a situation to get a better picture. maybe a few months apart is what you need, date other people. bad realtionships might bring you back together

How long have you and this girl been dating? Why are you writing texts instead of talking to her face to face?

If you want a successful relationship, you have to play the man: be confident, busy, exciting, make plans, keep commitments, etc. You sound way too clingy and melodramatic. I thought you were the girl in this relationship. The hard fact is, a relationship between a man and a woman needs at least one man in it.

Get yourself the book Mars & Venus on a Date if it’s been less than three months. Or Men, Women & RElationships if it’s been more.

we’ve been dating for about a year and half now. and sorry about any typos. my keyboard is all messed up. but anyway. i dontdo breaks sorry. i believe that if you cant be someone for a year, then what makes you think youu canspend the rest of your life them. this is it for me. if this ends im done with all this dating and reltionship thing. i cant go through this course all over again. starting from the very beginning feels like the past was just a waste of time. and what we’ve been through together, and everything we’ve done and still want to do are things i cant forget and miss all the time. i am a guy. i know i can sound emotional. iam. my love for her is unfathomable.
iam the man. its just i can express my feelings alot more and alot easier. and i like to look for help instead of thinking alot to myself and making the wrong decisions. im going to work soon. so please answer as quicik as possibleplease

philldotco wrote:
we’ve been dating for about a year and half now. and sorry about any typos. my keyboard is all messed up. but anyway. i dontdo breaks sorry. i believe that if you cant be someone for a year, then what makes you think youu canspend the rest of your life them. this is it for me. if this ends im done with all this dating and reltionship thing. i cant go through this course all over again. starting from the very beginning feels like the past was just a waste of time. and what we’ve been through together, and everything we’ve done and still want to do are things i cant forget and miss all the time. i am a guy. i know i can sound emotional. iam. my love for her is unfathomable.
iam the man. its just i can express my feelings alot more and alot easier. and i like to look for help instead of thinking alot to myself and making the wrong decisions. im going to work soon. so please answer as quicik as possibleplease

i wish more guys were like you

philldotco wrote:
we’ve been dating for about a year and half now.

So get the book Men, women and relationships by John Gray. Men and women have roles that work very well in a relationship. You have to forget the political correctness and the anti-male slant out there and maybe even the negative male role models you’ve experienced in your life.

I’m sorry for being blunt. I lose patience sometimes. I have my own issues, obviously. But every person you have a relationship with teaches you something about yourself. It’s important to take those lessons about yourself to become a more effective human being in the world.

You may be able to make this relationship work. But even if you can’t, it DOES NOT MEAN YOU WON’T HAVE SUCCESS IN THE FUTURE. I lost a woman after 17 years. Yeah, it was heartbreaking. But I sought out the best advice in books, I went to support groups, I listened to the tough things people said to me and I changed for the better and now I have another wonderful relationship.

Don’t let your anxiety turn you into an emotional mess. Read the book.