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Well of course you are going to get oh that’s illegal and blah blah but late own down the road that age difference isn’t that big of a deal. first answer this what would your parents do if you brought this idea up? Is he a nice guy would your parents like him would they understand why you like him yet he is 22? If its a good feeling and it feels like it can go somewhere then try that, but if this guy is trying to use you or manipulate you then you should probably get out of the situation , give me some more info

well my parents are pretty judgmental people.. so honestly they wouldn’t even give him a chance.
plus my older sister (17) is troubled and my parents have like given up on her and they have this image that I’m the perfect daughter.. so for me to bring something like that up to them.. wow. they would think soo much less of me.

no hes not like that. hes seriously a good guy, when we first met like neither of us had bad intentions and we still don’t. just our outlooks on eachother have changed.

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Well of course you are going to get oh that’s illegal and blah blah but late own down the road that age difference isn’t that big of a deal. first answer this what would your parents do if you brought this idea up? Is he a nice guy would your parents like him would they understand why you like him yet he is 22? If its a good feeling and it feels like it can go somewhere then try that, but if this guy is trying to use you or manipulate you then you should probably get out of the situation , give me some more info

good answer. You’ll probably just have to wait it out

Well you basically set the answer for yourself, if you try to pursue this relationship you’ll have to go behind their back to make it work which will lead to so many problems and cause you stress on the inside, but at the same time if you don’t pursue it you might feel sad or depressed. If the feelings for him isn’t that strong you might just want to date around your school or wait for someone else ya kno, but I mean if I were you and i knew that person was the one, i would do anything to be with them. I guess it all just comes down to how you feel about it

Well i personally would be worried by a 15 year old girl dating someone 7 years older than her. You never see stories of a 15 year old boy dating a 22 year old woman. I would stay in contact and and wait until that age gap is more acceptable. There isn’t really anything else you can do.

yes. that is true.
thanks to both of you guys. that helps out alot.
however. I’m wondering you said wait till the age gap is more acceptable?
like its obviously the age gap is always gonna be 7 years.
however you mean along the lines of wait till were both older and age doesn’t play as much of a role?

and I understand your probably thinking. Your just blind he really is a creep kind of thing.
But I wish I could feel that way… I don’t want to have feelings for him cause like I’ve said.
I have morals. But he really is a good guy. He doesn’t want anything to happen either.

yeah when your older and seven years isn’t a big deal. In the example i gave you would be suspicious of the 22 year old women. And i not saying that he isn’t a nice guy but people people will always doubt the young girl infatuated by an older man, viewing her points and feelings as the result of naivety. You can either stop talking to him and hope that these feelings subside, or keep in contact and just be patient. Neither is very satisfying i know, but your in a tough position.

yeah true.
yeah for sure you would. but I just know this is different.. but I wish it wasn’t.
I know what you mean. That’s always how everybody looks at everything.
Yeah I know.
I think I’m just going to keep talking to him every once in a while and start dating other people to get my mind busy and then when I’m older.. go for it.

I support what ever you decide to do but do me a favor, if you start feeling horrible inside or shaky or confused, please just do what it takes to make you happy in life, if its the right thing to do.

yeah i will. thank you so much