boyfriend help: Boyfriend and I are “taking a break” - Help.com

Hmm.

Taking a break does not sound good.
Not to be the bringer of bright and happy news, but you may want to move on. He probably will. Even if he doesn’t, just don’t dwell on it too much. Busy yourself with other things. Talk occasionally, and as friends. If you decide you want to be together again, good for you. If things don’t work out, then it was never meant to be.

typ wrote:
Sorry but “taking a break” is guy-speak for already moved on.

Exactly my thought. Even if he’s just a weirdo and hasn’t actually moved on, YOU had better move on quickly. AS I said, busy yourself with lots of different things and forget about him. Don’t even hold a bit of hope that you guys will be together again. It’ll be hard at first but once you’ve accepted that it won’t work out, then you’ll feel much, much better.

Im having the same thing happen to me! Except we still talk once and awhile… and he still says i love you i promise once in awhile. And he wants to get back together… Yet, why he needed a break… i dunno… Anyways, lol…

If you can text him or if he has a myspace or something. Leave him messages saying “i miss you” or just “hey”. He doesnt have to reply. And its not considered *talking* :P
Just has him reminded of you, and thinking of you when he sees it.

Though yes people say move on, yada yada. And heck that might even be the right thing to do. But if you dont wanna. Try to keep in touch, even if its just a little.
Hope i was encouraging :s

I am a guy so i know that “taking a break” really does mean moving on. I don’t know how many times i’ve seen it used. as much as i hate to admit it, i’ve used it once before, even though i do know now that that is never the best idea to do.

Don’t take a break.

Orise wrote:
Im having the same thing happen to me! Except we still talk once and awhile… and he still says i love you i promise once in awhile. And he wants to get back together… Yet, why he needed a break… i dunno… Anyways, lol…

If you can text him or if he has a myspace or something. Leave him messages saying “i miss you” or just “hey”. He doesnt have to reply. And its not considered *talking* :P
Just has him reminded of you, and thinking of you when he sees it.

Though yes people say move on, yada yada. And heck that might even be the right thing to do. But if you dont wanna. Try to keep in touch, even if its just a little.
Hope i was encouraging :s

no offense, but if I’m trying to not see somebody doing that is just gonna be like oh god, now I have to ignore her more.

I’d say taking a break even if it isn’t because he doesn’t like just means that he isn’t feeling the relationship or the connection, or something is up and he just wants to move on. I’ve only used the break like maybe twice and it had nothing to do with the girls. I liked them both, but really the problem was that I wasn’t looking for that serious of a relationship at that time in my life and I figured if I stayed it would have became more serious than I wanted.

I want to say that when you ‘take a brake’ it isnt the beginning of the end because thats what I feel is about to come in my relationship, but I have allways believed that it is the beginning the end. I think you take a brake because you need time to yourself and need time away from your partner, and some time away from the statue of “being in a relationship” its a horrible time, but if he wants to truly work it out and it not be the end then he will make attempts to talk to you, conntact you some way. but you shouldnt put it all on him to make the contact.

I believe the taking a brake time really will show you if you and this person ARE or ARE NOT ment to be together. If the connection you two have is strong enough to with stand this.

Taking a break doesn’t always mean a break up (I’m …sort of going through this, although my boyfriend insists he just needs time to think if he wants to be in a relatinoship and it isn’t a break). I have a friend who went on a break with her boyfriend…twice, he then cheated on her when they got back together, they broke up and are now back together. Keep in mind though, they had dated for about 3 years before this all happened, and it was mainly because they had started dated immediately as freshman in college, and it was the guy having a crisis about whether he was missing out.

Don’t get false hope, but keep in mind it really matters what the break is about.