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Losing my best friend..

Sorry this is going to be a long post, please read it if you can I really need some advice :(
I’ve known her (my best friend) for about 6 years now and we’ve been really close for about 4 of those years. We tell each other everything and know all each other’s secrets. We’ve had so many good times - shopping, parties, sleepovers, on the phone until 4am gossiping - and we’ve been through a lot together like boyfriends, break-ups, bereavement. We’ve stuck together all the way and we swore we were friends for life but recently our friendship ‘bond’ has been weakening. We finished from our high school in July and for different reasons - mainly through us both going on holidays at different times - we haven’t had much contact. I tried to contact her as much as I could but I never seemed to be enough. Whenever we met up, it just seemed to me like we’re losing something that was there before. Then we had a series of little rows, then a major row. Things were bad for a while but we put our differences aside and made up, but to me there is still a sense of hostility there - on the phone, online, texting. She’s also made a lot of excuses for us not to meet up. All through this time, she’s been growing closer to another one of our friends who she now says is her best friend and I’ve grown closer to our other two friends.
I just feel like we’re losing this friendship and she’s just giving up. Like I said, we have our other really close friends but I feel lost because we were each others closest friends and it’s been six really good years! Six years of memories just let go! Clearly she thinks this is my fault and I really want to sort this out, but each time I ask her about it she either just ignores me or denies there’s anything wrong. We are also going to different colleges in Sept. so that is going to make things a lot worse. I’m just so fed up and wish things were back to how they used to be!
Is there anything else I can do or is it time to give up?

Once again sorry for the length of this post and thank you for any answers

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Hun, your friend is trying to “break up” with you. Most likely because your going to different colleges. It’s not a bad thing it’s how some people cope. Make sure you have each others contact info and just give it some time. You guys might never be best friends again, but if you want to you can be friends for the rest of your life.

I have been out of school for many years and live far from where I grew up, but there are very few of my good friends from school that I don’t still have contact with.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (57 minutes after post)

hey. :) hope you’re doing well.

i’ve had a series of friend “break ups” after i graduated from high school, university, as well as when i transferred to another company at work. my take on it is, it’s just a normal part of life and relationships. to be honest, people do honestly need something current in common for a friendship to thrive. and it’s with only very few people that you can have a friendship with no matter the time and distance. you’ll know, as if something just clicks (and when you find that, hold on tight).

but anyway, you might feel that all those years of wonderful friendship now meant nothing. but going your own separate ways isn’t really gonna negate all those. :) just think that at least once in your life, you met a person as wonderful and unique as her. :)

hope it helps. :) stay strong!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 hour, 44 minutes after post)

if you are true friends arguments and distance and especiaially time shouldnt stop anything. and if you want someone back you have to met them halfway at lest. try just acting normal. eg. call her up at 4.00 in th morning and tell her some news. if she doesnt want to be friends with you anymore then she wont met you half way simple. and then you no you will just have to find a friend that is more loyal. i once had a best friend, i told her i was moving and she started acting all weird i think it was a way of protecting herself so that when i finally did move she wouldnt feel alone. i must say i have done the same thing. show her that you want to keep in contatc with her through thick and thin (only if you do of course). tell her how you feel mabye. these are just all idea’s from my own experiences. i hope you go alright. it is so hard to just move on after so long. good luck.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (2 days, 9 hours after post)

I am in a similar situation.

My advice to you would be to fill your life with people who WANT to be in your life. That way you are able to give and receive equally.

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