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good luck brotha. im in the same boat
stevethemeve wrote:
good luck brotha. im in the same boat
It´s not to crowdy in here…
I´m not sure that we´re paddeling in the right direction…
I see myself as never good enough for anyone.. Probably a big part of me beeing picky.
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NoGifts wrote:
Yeah, picky people aren’t that much fun to be around. You need to just go out and have fun with some girls without thinking about them being the “right one” that meet your so-called high standards. You might be surprised to find you like one of them anyway, even with imperfections.
I love a lot of girls but i always pick on personalities because i´m so insecure about myself…
Well, first of all, NO ONE IS PERFECT! My bf can b really stupid a times but i still love him for who he is. He makes me laugh so thats why i like him. So maybe you need 2 set your standards a little low. my relationship is goin great so hope i helped! (\/)
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Awellma wrote:
Well, first of all, NO ONE IS PERFECT! My bf can b really stupid a times but i still love him for who he is. He makes me laugh so thats why i like him. So maybe you need 2 set your standards a little low. my relationship is goin great so hope i helped! (\/)
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I need someone i can make laugh and that can make me do the same. Like beeing easy around and that really don´t have too many issues…
NoGifts wrote:
I’m sorry to hear that. It sounds like you want to dump them before they discover your flaws. You are probably very nice. Just find a girl with similar interests and try to have fun.
There is alot of nice girls. I just don´t find myself good enough for any of them.
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NoGifts wrote:
We are all our own worst critics. Work on not listening to that voice in your head that says you’re not good enough our worthy. Everyone is worthwhile, and there are man people who love you as your are. You must love yourself as your are.
I do not love myself cause i know that i could be so much better…
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NoGifts wrote:
Yeah, we could all be so much better. Improving ourselves is our job in life. We will never achieve the perfection that we seek. Seeking is enough.
The issue is that i cannot be with anyone if i look like myself. I need to drasticly improve to be good enough to even make conversation.
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NoGifts wrote:
What, because you’re chubby? Next time you walk down the street, instead of focusing on how you look — look closely at the people around you. You will find that there are a lot of us people who don’t look that great…that’s the other 75% of us! For conversation, you just have to be friendly and have a good sense of humor. Ask the other person questions about themselves and listen to them. The biggest trick to having people like you is to make them feel important.
I know. I manage to do it a little bit but i always end up focusing on all the wrong stuff…. It´s like programmed in or something.
Well then in reality, it has nothing to do with the girls. You already know that it has to do with you and your own insecurities, so why don’t you do something about it? Find hobbies that make you happy. Do things that challenge you but that you succeed at. If you don’t like your appearance, hit a gym or get a hair cut. Maybe get some new clothes. At the end of the day though, you are who you are. You need to accept and that and love yourself. STOP feeling sorry for yourself and do something about the things you don’t like about yourself. Don’t be all talk and no walk. And regarding girls, “to find someone you love, you gotta be someone you love”. Heard that in a nada surf song and it reminds me of your situation.
Smile. You’re amazing.
PS don’t give me some bull **** answer of why you can’t do it. Why you can’t put yourself out there. Why you can’t make it, but the other 6 billion people out there can. I’ve read your other comments back to people, and it doesn’t look like you’re wanting advice, but rather some pity. Man up. You aren’t the only one who has felt useless.. but people work through it and learn to be happy with themselves, and their lives. You aren’t doomed to a horrible life, unless you think you are. Whether you think you can or not, you’re right.
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