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I am having a really difficult time making friends since finishing High School.

While I was in high school I had people whom I considered friends at school but never hung out with anyone outside of school, my mother always told me I couldn’t go places, and at a young age my family made me think that if I hung out with people something bad was going to happen and I would be in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Anyways, after High school everyone I knew moved away for college or became drinkers and drug users and I didn’t want to be apart of it.
The only person I seemed to have was my boyfriend (now husband) and his group of friends which integrated into somewhat friends of mine, but im the only girl in the bunch.
My husband doesn’t really like me going out places and worries about me. So when I do go out with my brothers or family he calls constantly.
I was recently put on medication for severe depression from everything.
I dont know what to do, or where to turn. I feel so alone and now even looking at photos of groups of friends having fun together makes me want to cry because I dont have that feeling of joy and accompaniment.
What can I do to make some friends? I am very friendly but sometimes feels awkward in social settings.

Any help or words of wisdom would be much appreciated.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

One thing that I learned over the years is that we can’t wait for things to happen, most of the time we have to make them happen. Don’t wait for anyone to come and ask you if you want to be you his or her friend, that’s something you have to do. Have a good attitude, be possitive, most people like to be around those who make them feel better. You don’t need t go to far, try your neighbors, old friends, the wives of your husbands friends or even family, nobody understands you better than family. And believe me, it is easier than you think, anyways think that you have to do it, don’t wait too long though, just do it and you’ll see how better you feel.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (5 days, 10 hours after post)

do you have a job? most people make friends with the people they work with

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (5 days, 10 hours after post)

or you could volunteer

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